Girlfriend Pregnant, baby isnt mine

Anonymous999 · Dec 30, 2005, 03:54 PM

I think some users mis-read some of my post - she never cheated on me and I never mentioned anything about "Marriage!" heaven forbid I won't be thinking about that for many years!
She has been to the doctors and is free of any kind of STD....

I would like to thank everyone that replied so far its really put my mind at rest about the situation and where I stand in the relationship...
For now anyway

Have a Happy New Year People...

nwsflash · Dec 30, 2005, 04:46 PM

You either run as fast as you can too the hills and cut this girl out of your life and move on, or you stay put and work things out together.

If you run and leave this girl, do you think that this is the right thing for you to do and would this play in your mind and do you think you can move on quick, think about what your feelings are in your heart not your mind, can you say that you are both 100% in love with one another.. And If you stick around and deal with this are you willing for all the commitment that you would be giving and putting yourself into... This is going to be one of the biggest things that you could ever do in your life and you need to be strong in your mind and soul for this, as this could be the rest of your adult life your talking about.

If you stay with her, its always going to be you, her and the baby and yes the child is going to be apart of your life if you stick together and you may end up taking on the roll model for this child if the father from what your saying wants nothing to do with this child, and would you be willing for this as this is a major commitment and would urge you not too take it lightly if children are involved in the situation as they are 100% "innocent" and not part of the matter. If you stay with this girl you are going to have to know that there are 3 of you in the relationship and deep down in your heart would you be willing for this. You say that you are not sure if you could except the child, if your sticking with her, sorry to say there is no choice you would have to, our you may find that it would be your girlfriend making her mind up and kicking you to the side-walk.

I hope this has helped you a little, sorry if I seem a little blunt, but you need to really get your head into gear and way up all the pro's and cons' of this matter very deep.. From what you have been saying in your post you seem like you really care for this girl, but is this as a friend or as a girlfriend ? Only you can ans that in your heart.

bizygurl · Dec 30, 2005, 06:54 PM

You said that you're a big softie and your very attracted to her. Ummm.... Do you think that is enough of a reason to stay with a girl who is having a baby that isn't yours? The one thing you didn't say is if you loved her. Anyone can be attracted to someone but do you love her enough to take on this resposibility? You already sound like your dreding this immensly. You guys have been only dating for four months and you are only twenty one. How do you know if this is the person you want to be with. I know it sounds like I'm saying don't be there for her, I don't mean that. I'm saying that If you decided to take on this responsibility this child id going to consider you "daddy". And if something happens down the road and you decide to break up, Its going to have an effect on you and that child. Make sure that you can handle this resposibility and everything that goes with it, because its definitely not a decision to be taken lightly.

momincali · Dec 30, 2005, 07:30 PM

[quote=CaptainForest].. At most the child will be what, 2 or 3 when/if you leave. I barely remember anything from that age. I don

spyyder · Dec 31, 2005, 02:50 PM

Man.. Stay with the chick.... You don't have to marry her man. When the child gets born, don't stay for longer than 2-3 years.. And by that time your love for her will definitely die down anyway (like everyone else).

Your 21 man...and you want to get married.. .... You should be tasting all the fishes in the sea before you decide on which one you like best (lets say a turnover of 1 every 1-12 weeks)... Get married when your 65+ that way you live life great (with loads of spouse experience) and will not die alone.

Anonymous999 · Dec 31, 2005, 04:18 PM

Thanks for everyone reply I havbeen at the pub since 6 so not too eligable to post but have a happu new year an d all the nbest for the fueture!

nwsflash · Dec 31, 2005, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Anonymous999

Thanks for everyone reply I havbeen at the pub since 6 so not too eligable to post but have a happu new year an d all the nbest for the fueture!

I wish you a very Happy 2006 as I know that its going to be life changing which ever road that you take... May you find the ans deep down in your heart... Listen to that and not your mind, always trust your heart and feeling and not your mind..

talaniman · Jan 1, 2006, 12:43 AM

When you sober up can you explain how you know you are in love after knowing someone for 4 months Do you already know how you'll feel in a year?

rkim291968 · Jan 1, 2006, 01:52 AM

Others have said something similar. I am repeating here for supporting their point.

I think you should not commit but be supportive of your girlfriend. When you are sure you have a strong future with her and her baby, you can make a decision then.

nwsflash · Jan 1, 2006, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by rkim291968

Others have said something similar. I am repeating here for supporting their point.

I think you should not commit but be supportive of your girlfriend. When you are sure you have a strong future with her and her baby, you can make a decision then.

Thats sound advice, but dude you better be ready to take those baby coming hormones lmfao if you stick around... Plus do you plan on being at the birth, if you do you will see that this is a magic event weither the child is yours our not... Plus you may find that this helps you bond

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