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I do NOT want to get pregnent & I m totally ignorant about pregnency and dates.
Hi,
I am 23 years old girl.Its been 5- 6 months I got into a relationship and in Jan we ended up making love.I am totally new to this and have no idea about sex or dates or anything at all.My boyfriend says he has some knowledge but i am not at all confident bout his knowledge.By now we wud have had sex like a 20 times and I AM TOTALLY SCARED IF I WILL GET PREGNENT.I dont even know what to do if i get pregnent,the mental tension is killing me and making me arrogant towards him.I do not want to have sex before marriage and it is not planned but some times we end up having sex.As i do not want to appreciate sex before marriage I dont even feel like asking him to use a condom and motivate him.
I have heard tat during periods 7 days the eggs will be active and we sud avoid sex is tat so? And on Ask me just now i read about some new thing like Ovulation,which has now made me totally confused and sad.
So please tell me how to take care and avoid getting pregnent? Which are the days i Need to be carefull and avoid sex? which are the days i can have sex? Please help me with a proper answer I am mentally stressed out and disturbed as i do not have any knowledge about this topic.
If you do not use some sort of birth control, the odds are that you WILL get pregnant.
They have a special name for the people who use the rhythm method (only having sex on 'safe' days). They call those people "Parents".
Go. Get on birth control. Determining which days out of the month that YOU, personally, are fertile, is harder than you would think.
If you are not willing to be on birth control because you think having sex before marriage is bad, or that it encourages him, then you have two choices: you can tell him NO and not have sex, or you can have KIDS before marriage.
Yes, that rhythmn method has created many a baby and people are so surprised when that happens. When you take the risk of having unprotected sex, sex you are not using some sort of contraceptive for, welcome to the reality of unplanned parenthood.
You can go to a public health nursing and get the right advice and help there. Some places have women's clinics that offer free or reduced care. If you do seek medical advice and counsel on this, you have no one to blame but you and your bf. Remember you can say no to him and mean it. If he pressures you and makes you feel bad for not having sex with him - is he really the right guy?
your 23? αnd thαt clueless?...obviously if you don't wαnt to get pregnαnt you look for αny sort of contrαceptive--αnd not even telling him to use α condom sounds wierd to me... if your so worried αbout it go to the doctors αnd get some birth control..better yet close your legs since you sαid you didn't wαnt to hαve sex till your mαrried.
if he's forcing you to hαve sex with him then thαts α different story b/c it seems like your too αfrαid to even tell him to use a goddαmn condom.
Listen...each time it is not formally planned tat we are gona have sex ...BUT i hope u understand it ends up there.Thats is the damn reason i cant open my mouth and ask him to use a condom.If i do ask him then it will be give him a wrong idea that I am for it. Also as i said i have told him my dislike towards sex before marriage and he has agreed to stop it.But I am scared if he will be unhappy with me beacuse of this reason.We are 100% committed and will get married.So m scared if he will feel bad or be depressed.
Okay, then there's more going on than just not wanting to get pregnant.
Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't respect you, who doesn't understand how important being married before having sex is to you? And if he's that unhappy with you for NOT having sex...doesn't that make it seem as though he is just with you for sex?
I'm not trying to say that he's a sex fiend or that he's using you....I'm trying to get YOU to examine your relationship! He could be the nicest guy in the world, but if he doesn't stop before sex and knows your feelings on it, then he doesn't respect you. If YOU don't stop when you know your own morals...then YOU don't respect you.
Honey...either get on some birth control "just in case", or stop having sex. If you don't do one or the other, you're going to get pregnant.
αre you listening to yourself?... you obviously αre "for it" becαuse you open your legs!... αnd if both of you αre committed αnd αre going to get mαrried (you never mentioned αnything αbout him loving you ---just thαt he hαs 'αgreed' to stop)... then you hαve nothing to worry αbout if he does love you thαn he'll wαit, you shouldn't even be worried if he's going to be 'unhαppy' with you just becαuse you hαve principles, but you αre which mαkes me think thαt this guy does pressure you to hαve sex..other wise you wouldn't be αsking this question.. αnd if like you sαid y'αll αgreed to stop doing it then you wouldn't be worried αbout getting pregnαnt...
ok. If you are going to have a marriage relationship, you HAVE to be COMPLETELY open with eachother. If you are afraid to tell him to use a condom, then what else will you not communicate? and what major problems will arise from such a lack of communication. If you love eachother enough to get married, you love eachother enough to listen to anything and everything eachother may communicate. It seems that the guy is being made out to be the bad guy in this situation, BUT you are equally responsible for having sex. If you think that the situation elevates too fast to even think about using a condom, that is where the complete responsibility on your part comes in. There are plenty of birth control options out there that you can use on your own part. using a condom is still a good idea if you relaly want to avoid pregnancy, (which given the immaturity of the situation here, I think it would be a VERY good idea) but atleast you wil be taking another form of birthcontrol if you dont use a condom. Face it, you have had sex atleast 20 times you said, therefore it is far too easy for you to cave and decide to go ahead and have sex. He isnt the only one wanting it here. IF you were serious about it, you would resist, and he would respect your wishes. but to me it sounds as tho you are consenting as well, but trying to play it off as tho you are the innocent one who WANTS to abstane, but when it comes down to it, he is just too persuasive, adn you dont want to hurt his feelings. You need to figure out your priorities and stick to them, or you will never get anything out of life that you want. I can not believe that you are completely ignorant to sex, how to get preggy and how to keep safe from it, at the age of 23. unless you have never had adolecent friends, been through school, and watched tv or anything else(therefore growing up in a dark cave or something) then you have to know something about it. it WILL happen if you keep this up. whether you are ready to be a mom or not. it will. simple fact. you are 23 and an adult. you need to start taking control of your actions, and taking RESPONSIBILY for those actions. make an appointment with your ob/gyn, talk to him about what the best choices for birth control for you are, and get more educated, if you are indeed that ignorant about these things.
Get some aloe vera gel and a lemon for unprotectedn sex....look this up on internet. also, take 1000 milligrams of vitamin C for avoiding implanting the spermtazoa into the egg. Read. and read some more. Yu are not alone. Take care of yourself.
Get some aloe vera gel and a lemon for unprotectedn sex....look this up on internet. also, take 1000 milligrams of vitamin C for avoiding implanting the spermtazoa into the egg. Read. and read some more. Yu are not alone. Take care of yourself.
They have a special name for people who use methods like this.
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