I have a delivery question. I am having my 3rd baby in April. I am a very shy person when it comes to the delivery room. And a very firm beleiver that only my husband and doctors and nurses should be in the room. This is my husbands first child, and he isn't one for the blood and all. So he is afraid that he won't make it threw the delivery. Every time he say's this around a friend of ours, she pipes up and say's "I already know I'll be the one in there helping!". And has stated over and over how she wants to be in the room. How do i kindly tell her that she isn't welcome in the delivery room? Or do i leave it to the nurses at the time?

nicolelynn2

i had the worst experience with the same situation, my mother in law didnt talk to me for 3 months afterwards because i didnt let her in the room, and she even tried to sneak in... just sit whoever it is down and kindly explain that this is his first child and that you want to experience the birth of your child together... its a special bonding moment for you too

tinkerbell77

Thank you all for the suggestions. I think I will continue to make sure she knows that she won't be in the room. I've had several other friends suggest that we don't call tell after the baby is delivered. But I don't know if my husband will go for that idea? He did say IF I go in to labor in the middle of the night he wouldn't call friends tell morning. So that can always be a hope too! I was also thinking if it happened during the day while everyone is at work that would be better to. But babies are unprodictable.

buggage

There is nothing more distracting when you are trying to deliver your baby, then people calling to see if you are done yet,(once they know you are going in to deliver, they just cant seem to stand the wait, as tho you wouldnt want to let them know as soon as your baby is there.)During my labor, I was trying to push, and the phone kept ringing off the hook. it was very frustrating and distracting. This time around, no one will know that I am going into labor until I already have delivered(except for my mom who lives a couple states away and will be traveling down to help out.) In the end, you really need to make sure you do what is in your best interest, and in babys. stress and distraction in the delivery room can call for a long frustrating labor. It isnt rude to just wait until baby has arrived to call. remember, this is your family, and you are the ones with the decisions to make about what is best for your family, no matter what others think. Good luck! When are you due again????I've got three months left.

tinkerbell77

I think the phone calls would be frustrating. I know my husband wants to call his family because they live about 10 hours away. They want to jump in the car. They will probably miss the delivery, considering my first was 6 hours and my second 8. But you never know? I figure driving in the car or waiting in the waiting room when they get the word will be no different. The only thing with our friends was that we were goin to ask that they keep a eye on the older kids while I'm in labor. So this past week I found another friend to watch them. Actually I found 2 just in case. That way IF my husband agree's they will be friends that will get called right after the delivery.
I am due the end of April. We are getting very excited!!! But it still seems so far away!

buggage

yeah good idea! finding friends that are trustworthy to not only watch your kids, but to let you have some peace and quiet to enjoy the birth of your next baby. good thinking. I'm hoping the person i have watching my son turns out to be good. we dont know many people here, she is the only one that I trust to watch my son. she is very nice, but she said " the SHOULD be FINE" when i asked her to watch him when i go into labor. so that makes me wonder how reliable she will be when the time comes. If not, my hubby will be watching him and I will be laboring alone I guess. that is what happens when you have no family nearby and limited friends. I hope all goes well with your delivery. Yes, I am due May 17th. So we arent too far apart! These last months always seem the hardest to wait, dont they? the first two flew by, now these last 3 months seem to be dragging by