Okay, this is absolutely horrible, I already know this. but I have been with my fiance for almost 2 years. We live together and we get in some fights and all but all in all we have a very steady relationship. I love him and I know he loves me even more. My problem is that I just found out that I am pregnant. A couple weeks ago I went out with a few friends and drank way to much for my good then all my friends had to leave early. Well the next thing I remember is waking up without my clothes in another guys bed.
Now I am completely scared that the baby is not my fiance's. He doesn't know that I am even pregnant yet. I just don't know what to do. When I have the baby my it will be obvious if it is his or not because if it is his he should be bi-racial and if it is not then it will not be bi-racial. This is the first time I have ever cheated on him because I love him so much I would never do that to him and I would have never done it this time if I would have known what I was doing.
I just need some advice. I don't know what to do and I am scared...
chrissy i think its wrong to string you fiancee along making him believe that you may or may not be carrying his child. You said that you guys have been trying obviously he wants to make you his wife and mother of his child. You owe it to him to be honest and not say ohh if the child is not biracial then its not his. To me tis is a very selfish and irresponsible act. Stop playing with peoples minds and emotions, its not fair.
chrissy i think its wrong to string you fiancee along making him believe that you may or may not be carrying his child. You said that you guys have been trying obviously he wants to make you his wife and mother of his child. You owe it to him to be honest and not say ohh if the child is not biracial then its not his. To me tis is a very selfish and irresponsible act. Stop playing with peoples minds and emotions, its not fair.
I do want to be honest with him just don't want to hurt him. He means the world to me and love him to much to hurt him. I am not trying to play with his emotions at all, I would never do that to him. He is the type of guy that even if it wasn't his he would still stick around and raise the baby as his own. But I know if would still hurt him greatly and I do not want that at all. Right now he doesn't even know I am pregnant and l am seriously thinking about ending the relationship and the pregnancy even though I love him dearly and want to be with him for the rest of my life and just never tell him about the pregnancy, because I think This would hurt him less than knowing that I am carrying a child that is not his. This may be selfish, but I just can't bring myself to break his heart to tell him that I am pregnat with the child we have been trying for, but it's not his.
If you do not want to hurt him you will tell him what happened. The truth. No matter what the out come. It is hard but that is what you need to do. Whether it is his baby or not.
If you do not want to hurt him you will tell him what happened. The truth. No matter what the out come. It is hard but that is what you need to do. Whether it is his baby or not.
As well, this has been said in other posts with other peoples experiences.. You got drunk so drunk you do not remember anything. Some people will say that you got taken advantaged of, raped. Yes, you put yourself in a situation where you were drinking, but anybody could have taken advantage of that situation. Do you know where you were at when you woke up? Who's place was it? Does any of your friends know where you went they just left you there? You have to ask yourself do you feel violated? If you do, tell your fiance. At the same time I know you feel you do not want to make excuses about the situation but you also need to tell him how you feel about the situation. IF you feel it was somebody taking advantage of you then you need to report it as a rape, whether you were drunk or not.
This guy drove you to your car?? Where did he drive you from?? There must be a way of finding out about this person??
Okay, l am going to try to clear up what happened that night... I met up with a couple friends in a city that I am not from at a bar that I can't remember the name of (that part I know lean figure out). My friends decided to turn in early but I decided to stay since I had driven an hour to get there. One of my friends who lives down the street from the bar said wren I was ready to come home I could just walls to her place. While there with my friends I had started talking to this girl there so when my friends left she and started hanging out together and meeting a bunch of new people. I don't remember much else of the night. I know the girls first name but nothing else about her. My friend never met any of the people there so they wouldn't be any help.
The next morning I woke up still very hazy and he told me he needed to take me back to my car because he had work. when I looked at the clock in the car in was 7:17 and when we got back to my car it was 7:41. Before I got out of the car he told me, "you were a great f**k"I was on the verge of passing out at this point so l slept in my car for about an hour and a half, then headed home. Since I am not from that area don't remember any streets we took or anything like that.
Okay, l am going to try to clear up what happened that night... I met up with a couple friends in a city that I am not from at a bar that I can't remember the name of (that part I know lean figure out). My friends decided to turn in early but I decided to stay since I had driven an hour to get there. One of my friends who lives down the street from the bar said wren I was ready to come home I could just walls to her place. While there with my friends I had started talking to this girl there so when my friends left she and started hanging out together and meeting a bunch of new people. I don't remember much else of the night. I know the girls first name but nothing else about her. My friend never met any of the people there so they wouldn't be any help.
The next morning I woke up still very hazy and he told me he needed to take me back to my car because he had work. when I looked at the clock in the car in was 7:17 and when we got back to my car it was 7:41. Before I got out of the car he told me, "you were a great f**k"I was on the verge of passing out at this point so l slept in my car for about an hour and a half, then headed home. Since I am not from that area don't remember any streets we took or anything like that.
Hope that clears it up a bit.
Chrissy
However this thing happened the fact is that it has happened. Let us move on from here. You are pregnant and you need to think about yourself and the health or your baby now. Moving froward are you taking any vitamins, if your not you should start. Also you need to tell your fiancee, he deserves that much, pregnancy is not something that you can hide for very long. Once he sees your growing stomach he is going to be so attached to this child. Once the baby arrives if its not his he'll be crushed, the act of not telling him soon is to wicked. Its gonna hurt him more in the long run if you are not honest with him now.
However this thing happened the fact is that it has happened. Let us move on from here. You are pregnant and you need to think about yourself and the health or your baby now. Moving froward are you taking any vitamins, if your not you should start. Also you need to tell your fiancee, he deserves that much, pregnancy is not something that you can hide for very long. Once he sees your growing stomach he is going to be so attached to this child. Once the baby arrives if its not his he'll be crushed, the act of not telling him soon is to wicked. Its gonna hurt him more in the long run if you are not honest with him now.
I was just trying to clear up the entire situation for Jesushelper. Right now I am thinking about terminating the pregnancy so I am not taking any vitamins. I just figure what he doesn't know can't hurt him and if I just don't tell him, he can not get attached. I am thinking the best decision might just be to make a clean break from him and the pregnancy so that everyone gets hurt as little as possible. Except of course, the baby and I. I have always been completely pro-life but in my mind I know that if it isn't my fiance's child that I will not be able to love it the same way and I wouldn't know if I would want to try adoption until the baby is born and that is just too long to wait. I know that it will kill me to do this and how incredibly hard it would be to do this but I just feel like it might be the best thing to do.
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