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loulou7891 · Sep 28, 2010, 03:36 AM

How do you talk to a man who's scared to talk about his feelings?

martinizing2 · Sep 28, 2010, 04:49 AM

[QUOTE][how do you talk to a man who's scared to talk about his feelings/QUOTE]

As often as it takes for the two of you to learn to honestly communicate.

Did you try counseling ? Or help from your pastor, rabbi, priest, bishop, or other appropriate religious authority figure?

You have two children so it is obvious you did get along well some of the time.
And when you are getting along is the time I found works best to deal with difficult issues.
Instead of waiting until you're angry about an issue , and trying to deal with it then.

Men can be much more reasonable if the dialog is calm enough
To still give them hope for sex when it is over.
At least it did for me.

But the most important issue you have now is to get you and your children's future more secure.
Get an Attorney,. now.. in an hour if possible and get the court ordered child support and visitation issues
Taken care of . I was kidding about getting a lawyer in the next hour.
Unless you can. Then get things started.

This eliminates a vast majority of what usually are the hardest issues to face in a break up.
And I have gone through a divorce and custody battle. Believe me when I tell you
YOU NEED AN ATTORNEY.

I wish you and the little ones well

Jake2008 · Sep 28, 2010, 09:37 PM

He left you pregnant, and with another child he fathered, and you are wondering how to get him to talk about his feelings?

I'd say his feelings are pretty obvious. He's not feeling the responsibiliy of being a father, he's not feeling he needs to step up and support you, he's not feeling committed, he's not feeling that your needs are greater than his right now, and he's not feeling that he has to explain himself.

Actions speak louder than words. It is sad that (obviously), you love him, and trusted him enough to have a second baby with him, but you are faced with a man who abandoned you, your child together, and the child he created that is yet to be born. Not much of a man in my opinion.

As Martin said, it is time to seek out legal assitance because you need to establish child support. He isn't putting you first, so you need to make sure he doesn't skip out on financial support, just because he isn't feeling like he wants to do it.

talaniman · Sep 29, 2010, 02:39 PM

Originally Posted by loulou7891

How do you talk to a man whos scared to talk about his feelings?

You don't you take him to court so your babies get what's due them, as his actions are speaking for him.

Or you are a hard woman to be around when your pregnant. Which is it, because you have few details, just a broad question.