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This is a question i need to ask for my friend.
she found out yesterday that she is pregnant shes not sure how
far yet but she is so shocked and doent know what to do.
she is only 18 and has her life ahead of her. she is in her 1st or 2nd
year apprenticship in hairdressing and with her having a baby she wont be able to get her full dertificate.
having that said she a really out going girl loves to have a few drinks go out and party.
but i know if she has this baby she'll be a really good mum.
a question from the both of us.
all you young mums out there when you fell pregnant did you regret it?
how many of you had an abortion and really regret it now?
how many of you kept your child and are now happy parents?
or how many went through with the pregnancy and regret it now?
she really needs help on what to do. ive told her its really her choice but she needs
a second opinion..
if anyone has been through the same situation your advise is greatly appresiated...
thank you
Sarah x
hey just wana say that i had a baby at 16 and he is now 3 and i love him with everything i got and i wouldnt change it for the world becouse he is my world it was hard but i did it
Dealing with the scars from that, even though I willing chose adoption, has haunted every other area of my life since then.
I do not regret giving my child a great family, and don't regret choosing adoption--but it still hurts that I never see her, and it still kills me to see other moms holding their children when I'll never hold mine.
No matter what she chooses, she'll be losing something. She has to decide for HERSELF what the worth of what she'd be gaining is worth compared to the losses.
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I am 19 and found out I was pregnant in April. My fiance and I are full time college students and living together. We knew what we were risking moving in together and having sex, and we had talked about the "what if" possibility constantly. The "what if" turned to "what now." When we found out, we were so happy. We couldn't stop smiling. Eventually as time went on I started stressing about everything, thinking to myself are we too young? are we doing the right thing? am I going to be a good mother? Especially when I would get negative comments from people because it is considered teen pregnancy. But with the help of family, friends, and each other we've learned to ignore those ignorant people and realize it doesn't matter what they say or think, we are having a baby! When we told our mom's I was so scared. They live three hours away and we were going to visit them for Mother's Day. Well I cried the whole way there. I thought they were going to be so disappointed in us and upset with us, I didn't know how to handle it. As soon as I saw them, I just started crying and they knew something was wrong, but they did not yell or scream, they hugged us, they cried, and told us how thrilled they are too. The rest of our families reacted the same way. Well now I am 26 weeks and 4 days pregnant. We are still in college. Why wont your friend be able to get her certificate? Just because she is pregnant does not mean her life is being thrown away. Of course she had different plans for herself, but having a baby does not mean she has to throw her goals away. It just means she now has new goals to go with her old ones. Today there are so many options for students who have babies, so much financial help she can get, everything. It's really upsetting when I hear about people being pregnant and they think their life is over. Having a baby is not a curse, picking a different route in life doesn't mean it's for the worse. There has never been a day go by that I have ever regretted keeping this baby.
I got pregnant at 18...I was on birth control pills.
I had just got out of highschool and was in my first year of college.
I am strongly against abortion, so that was a big decision maker for me. That aside, I have always felt...if you are making the decision to have sex you should be ready to accept any and all things that can come from sex...namely, a child.
I had a little girl a few months after I turned 19. She is now 5, almost 6. I have been a single parent since the day she was born, up until a few months ago when I got married. I couldn't imagine my life without her. Yes, it was hard not being able to go out all the time, and when I turned 21 I couldn't go out and get smashed...I had someone else to think about other than myself.
Having a child doesn't end everything....if she is willing to work for it. Most young moms give up on themselves. I didn't. I went to night school and became a certified medical assistant, and now I am close to finishing college. Yeah, it takes a bit longer because you have to work out your school schedule around your child...but it's worth it. I could only go part time...a few classes each semester...but I see the light at the end of the tunnel.
When you hear your child say "I love you"....when you feel their tiny arms around you...when you simply look at them, you can't think of your life without them.
I'm 20 & i first got pregnant when i was 19. I'm due February 4, 2008 with my baby girl. I am also a single mother. The father JUST recently started to come around but he's not very reliable so i'm not even counting him until he actually gets a job & starts helping out with these medical bills! It's really hard plus a very bad financial situation. But i wouldn't give my child up for anything in the world no matter how hard it is. I believe everything happens for a reason.
Sarah, she has to decide for herself as we all do. If she has her baby, she will have more responsibilities, sure, but babies do not destroy all the ambition in you. If you have goals, make adjustments and keep them. Take it one step at a time.
Looking at the big picture can be intimidating, but break it down into manageable pieces, and you will find it easier.
Babies are infants only a short time, all too soon they are off to preschool, or kindergarten.
When you are young, it may seem like forever, but it is so little time.
I had my children young, I worked and went to school. I have no regrets.
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