ok. im not sure what to do. i mean i dont even know how to tell my mom. the father knows, but i mean i know that im going to show soon and im not so sure if i want to tell her or just let her find out when i start showing.......im so confused.

educatedhorse_2005

It is best if you come out and just tell them.
Most parents are very understanding and will help you through the difficult times ahead.
One of the first things they will want to now is who the dad is.
Second when is it due.
Third is the dad willing to help you with the baby.
Fourth are you going to keep it or give it up for adaption.
Fifth how will you take care of it.

buggage

also, it is a very good idea to get things out in the open, so that you can get the proper prenatal care for you and the baby. The longer you wait the harder it will be to tell. Finding out on their own will probably make their reactions more strong, then if you show maturity and strength, and come right out and tell them. Good luck hun.take care of you and that lil one, and keep us posted.

kp2171

every day that your mother doesn't know is another day of added anxiety.

you know it might be very difficult... but better now than latter. until you let her know, it is just more added stress. she'll need time to adjust, you need to know whether she'll help you. the sooner you can let her know the sooner you can begin to deal with the situation. its always better to deal with reality than to fret about what you are unsure about.

and the point about proper prenatal care is a very good one. you should at least be taking a good multivitamin, folic acid is good, etc.

Jesushelper76

It is better to let her know now. I know it may be hard, but it will be even harder just waiting for her to find out. Quite honestly Your mother will probably take it better it actually coming from you now instead of later. Delaying it will only make her reaction possibly worse.

Jnet29

Hi ice angel, I know how you are feeling, I was in the same place you are in and it can be hard to tell your mom that your pregnant.angel If I were you I would go ahead and tell your mom because you will need her help to make sure you are in good health and to make sure you get the right care for your baby, so don't wait to long your baby needs to get the viamins pregnant women take to make sure the baby develope right . please let your mother be a mother don't take this from her she loves you and she will be the only one that can help you. I wish you the best : )

Stormy69

as a mother of a teenage mother, Let me share my feelings on this...
My daughter who is 17, hid her pregnancy from me until one month before the baby came. It's a long story she was in and out of our home , living with her boyfriend and his mother for the last couple of months.When I saw her I knew she was pregnant, I flat out asked her and she told me yes, she was.

I always thought I would freak out and go nuts if one of my girls got pregnant
so young.
I'm still amazed at how well I took the news. My daughter was very scared and in denial and did not get any prenatal care until I found out.
I made the appointment, she had an ultrasound and 3 weeks later my precious grandson was born. Perfect thank goodness!
Here are my regrets over the issue.
I wish she had told me sooner,The baby could have been born with something seriously wrong due to lack of prenatal care.
I did not have anytime to prepare. It was a mad dash to get just the basic things she needed.
I felt like she really didn't have any faith in me and our mother -daughter relationship.* I always thought my kids could tell me anything.
She fully intended to give the baby up for adoption, thankfully I convinced her she would regret that decision for the rest of her life, and I let her know that I would do what ever it took to help her keep that baby.
This baby was the cement that glued our relationship rock solid. My daughter moved back home and I watch her as a mother and have never been so proud of her. She loves me and depends on me. Just a side note, she graduated 2 weeks after the baby came! The hardest part for me from all this was that she didn't tell me. Yes I was hurt and upset that she did not make better judgement in using birth control, but I got over it. What hurt me was the lack of trust and communication.
Now not all moms are going to react as well as I did. But remember you are not the FIRST teenage girl to get pregnant and you surely won't be the last.
So please.. tell your Mom. It may be the hardest thing you ever do in your life, but you need to be an adult now and face her. Good luck to you sweety.

ice_angel

I just don't know how to tell her. We never really got along. and im just scared of her reaction. b/c i mean i know who the father is but i was a mistake. we were both drinking that night. i mean i want to tell her, but im afraid of how she will react. being that she was married at 16 and had me at 19, i dont think it will be that bad but then again shes always told me that if i ever come up pregnant shell kill me. and i mean ive told my boyfriend b/c its not his and he is somewhat ok with it. but i just dont know exactly how to tell her.

Stormy69

I told my girls the same thing.. " I'd kill em" well I didn't.
Write her a letter and tell her you really need to talk to her about something very important, or find a time when she is in a good mood,or take her out to lunch and tell her in public( lessons the chance of her killing you if there are witnesses)or give her a small gift with the positive pregnancy test inside.
or.... there are lots of ways to tell her, just find the best one to suit your situation.

ice_angel

thank you...i would have never thought of any of that.