heh.. boy do i feel silly.
good call on the water softener. i mean.. i didnt have one, but i do have an in-line filter. had semi messed w/ it yesterday but it wouldnt come loose and the former owner didnt leave me the lil wrench deal that normally accompanies these filters. anyways.. it didnt need one (a wrench) it just needed a pressure release valve to be pressed until it purged the water in it, then unscrewed by hand mighty easy.
took out the filter and YEP, that was the culprit. ive never seen one sooooo nasty.took it out, and poured the SLUDGE out from the cup that holds the filter. ugh...
didnt have another filter handy, but just to ensure that was the problem i screwed it back on w/o a filter in it and turned the water back on.
checked the shower and the pressure is better than it ever has been!
YAY! and CHEAP!
good call ken! thanks bunches for the help bro!