Sick mother of 2 looking for charities

I'm so sorry to hear of your misfortunes. Call Catholic Charities or Lutheran Social Services and ask to talk with one of their counselors or a social worker. Also call the human services dept. Of the county you live in. They will help you and will also connect you with resources in your community, your township, plus in the county and state. In my community, churches adopt families who are having financial or other problems, so that's another possibility.

Good news my health insurance is not being stopped or my sons. That is a big relief. Still looking for online cash charities.

I'm going to be a bit tough here.

Are you seeing what I'm seeing? Which is more important? Cable and internet, or food for your son?

It's time to re-budget, go to your church and ask for help, go to your local food bank and get food, lower your expenses and live within your means.

It's time to change your lifestyle, and looking for charity is fine, but be prepared that you may not get it and it will be up to you and your husband to support you and the kids.

Good luck.

Got to tell you Thank You for commenting back guys but I think what I really need was some emotional support. Not being made to feel worse. Before I got sick we were an average middle class family nice home 2 cars. I worked very hard to go from being a dropout to being a respected member of my community. So just for a moment image finally having the life you dreamed of. The life you worked your butt off getting to and had just gotten. Ripped away from you. Image knowing that you aren't going to see your kids graduate or get married because your kidneys are going to fail. So finally you come to terms with that Than it is found out that your 4 year old is sick with something that will lead him to liver & kidney failure. Then your car gets repoed not because you didn't want to pay it but because when you went to trade it in 4 something you could afford you were told that it was in an accident before you bought it & it isn't worth anything . So now while your husband is at work trying to make money you can't get to the Dr. App for you or you son by the way did I mention the same week The 4 year old goes into surgery to get biopsies again! O yeah I forgot to mention The catholic charities have helped a lot & Am very thankful they are there but they have canned food & boxed food most of which my son can't eat. If I didn’t have the internet of which I haven't paid in 5 months. I wouldn't know that not only can't he have fruit but most veggies are out as well or that he can't have canned food at all it must be frozen or any processed meat or sugars of any kind & of course there is the milk allergy. So after all that happed last week I got this letter saying that we weren’t going to be insured starting the day before my sons surgery so I kind of lost it. I’m a very strong woman but at some point you just want to scream and that is what I was doing. I was mostly just looking for a pat on the back a it will be ok you know someone to say don’t give up, it is always darkest before the dawn. Not a scolding. I have always taken care of me & my own I was the one supporting my family since I was 15 so if you knew what it feels like for me to need to ask for help and be scolded for having unpaid cable.......... Just forget it!

Look, I've been where you are. I had breast cancer and a 4 year old daughter. It was my husband who suffered the depression and did not work for 2 years. I worked through my chemo (went to work, took my lunch hour for my chemo treatment and right back to work for the rest of the day) and right after all of my surgeries, the last of which was on my 40th birthday and I was back to work the next day. The heat got cut off in the dead of winter (Michigan), the phone was cut off, and I had to return bottles (michigan gives a 10 cent refund for coke cans and bottles) just so I could feed my 4 year old some days. So, you are not going to get any pity from me.

I did not have cable or the internet, I couldn't afford it. I had to work a second job, has your husband considered this?

Does your son have Hereditary Fructose Intolerance? A very rare genetic disease? Here is a page that you need to look at for fructose free diets for your son. HFI Treatment

Again, I've been where you are, and possibly worse. Did I ask for handouts? No, I got off my arse and did what I had to do to keep my family together. If your husband won't get a second job, you won't get pity from me.

My husband may not have 2 jobs but he does work a lot of overtime & he does travel 1 1/2 hours 2 get to work everyday & I may not work bet I do every odd side job I can I baby-sit every child on our block & clean a few house of which I walk to when I can move. Not to mention when I was well I volunteered at a lot of these charities & gave to more $1000's over the years. You would think though J_9 after all you have been through you would say don't stress so much life gets better it will b ok I have been there and although it is hard you will make it. Like I said I was just a hard week & what I really needed more then anything was so emotional support. Wow for having a husband with depression you know how to make someone feel like they can make it!

I do sincerely thank you though for the link to the HFI web sit. It is Hereditary Fructose Intolerance.

Yes, Sarah, life does get better, there is always a rainbow behind the storm, but you can't whine and complain, you must DO. NO matter how hard it gets, you must keep your chin up. God gives us nothing that we can't handle. We may have to get creative in our ways, this is why the cable and the internet was mentioned. Coupon clipping, weatherize your home, electricity on an as needed basis, etc.

Believe me dear, I know what a hard week is like.....sick from the chemo, losing my hair, explaining to my 4 year old, watching my husband sink deeper in despair afraid of losing me. But you are taking everyone's advice the wrong way. Cut costs, get rid of the cable and the internet, get rid of the cell phones if you have them. Find a local church who is offering the classes that Dave Ramsey has started....Financial Peace University. Contact your local Salvation Army (they can usually only help for one month of utilities).

Doctors cannot, by law in the US, refuse to treat you or your son based on ability to pay.

She said she hasn't paid the cable in 5 months...found out her son was sick 3 months ago...I don't think she had her priorities messed up. I am so sorry to hear for your troubles. There are good people out there to help you. You are in my prayers.

Thank -You southerngalps for being I think the only person to read the post before just reacting I actually did call to have the cable & internet turned off but was told I didn't have an account even though I get a bill each month. So I made the woman on the phone with me e-mail me saying that I made the atempt to close the account and she was unable to find a record of it. I guess I should thank God for small favers. I don't have cell phones never have. I don't like them why would I want people calling me when I'm out?
Dr's don't have to treat pts except to stablize them. But know worries anyway. The big thing I was freakin about has been handled the boys & I are insured still & the letter that had me freaking was a mistake. The little one can still get the biopsie and it won't put me $40,000 in debt.