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But I find certain members of my family are against this, and would like me to be like at there beck and call. They come to me with all there problems and I feel like I am like a 24 hour social worker, there still asking my advice up until 11 or 12 oclock at night. The thing you may be asking is why I put up with it. Well they are my siblings and we all live in the same house at the moment. I am waiting to move out quite soon but they are constantly harrassing me if it is not money it is where's the food, can you keep my bank book and passport for me, then they are asking for them back constantly,then its just about everything, if I decide to hibanate in my room and take a nap they are constantly knocking on my bedroom door asking me all kinds, if I tell them to leave me alone for a bit they are rude. How guys can I deal with them do you think,this is until I move out of this terrible hell hole. I have constant saw throat all the time my voice is croaky. I dont think that I will ever get out of this place without getting ill. They have made me take out loans for them in my name but give me the money to pay off the loan but although it is not costing me anything it is like another reason to be stuck by them I want to close all links with them.
I'm afraid not I am not working at the moment and I am on benefits, so it is pretty hard for me at the moment. I am short of money, I would't have moved back if I had a bit of money I would have as you say rented a property.
ohh that's the tough case... guess you just have to swallow your ego and choke up their babbling noise. Try doing home based business. I used to do buy/sell and sometimes i'd net about 6k a month. I'm sure there are others things you can do to make profit while you are on recovery.
Yes I will thanx guys, with things that have happened to me marriage break up losing my job, living with bad family it takes it's toll with you health and self esteem. So yes you are right.
Ever heard of misery loves company? People who are miserable want others in it and dont want to see others doing well.... sounds like that is a lot of what is going on.... kinda selfish. I would suggest not helping them more that YOU WANT to.
Set up boundaries NOW!! If you dont, and your boundaries go back and forth, there will be a lot of conflict.... set them up now and stick to them.... take some control back in your life! Sounds like what you are going through (divorce, moving back home, etc) take a lot of power and control from you.... so take it back, what you can! Altough you may not be popular, You will feel better about yourself.
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