i recently moved to a new city to join a grad program in psychology and neuroscience. i dont know why but even after a year i feel like i have no friends. i do talk to people and im pleasant but people see me as aloof. somehow i find myself unable to join and mingle with poeple and have them like me and want to be with me. im not desperate and rarely run after people but i do try to be warm. still i feel that people reject me. theyll invite everyone to a party but not me. am i repulsive? boring? i have many things to talk about, share, love good joke. I do tend to be a bit serious and find it hard to be lighthearted. still ive seen many serious people find friends and boyfriends and what not. what is wrong with me. please dont tell me tips from "how to win friends and influence people" i cannot be fake. i rarely find people who enjoy what i do-watching indie films, going to concerts art, music etc. rather i dont find people who have my taste in these things. but there's got to be someone!! i feel like poeple are only nice to me out of pity. it makes me hate this world. i hate pity. why isnt it enough that im myself? i dont expect to be liked by everyone- just someone.please help.

Clough

Might be! I hope so!

shawty_is_a_ten

im the one who goes to the parties, so i dont really know how you feel honey, but i think that you need to put yourself out there more, be friends with the others, try something new, you can try other things, but still like the same things, you know what i mean. just try it.