I think we are all so great to take care of others, however how can we learn to take care of ourselves more? What things can one do to take care of their own self-worth, self-respect, etc.

avataress

Dear Teaching,

I see that you have made a whopping 193 posts ! I'm wondering what your posts concerned, and if you know so much, why don't you know the answer to this basic question? I also wasn't sure if your question was "What do YOU (the respondent) do for your self-worth?" Or "What does ONE (anyone) do for her/his self-worth?"

I don't know if I can answer both questions, because although I believe that there are some things that are the same which anyone can do to nurture self-worth, there are some things in particular that I do to nurture mine:

The former are, be your best self as often as you can. When you can't be gentle with yourself about it and just start over again the next day. This is in ALL areas of life.

The latter are, for instance, I don't have a boyfriend/lover/husband and haven't for some time; I love flowers, so I buy them for myself to spruce up and make my home (apartment) aromatic. I also have an extremely difficult life, by my lights, and I self-comfort, a lot, or else I would not have survived as long as I have. Sometimes I do this with food, but that is rare. I do it often by playing a lot of my favorite music, or watching especially inspiring or funny videos or comedy shows.

There are many, many other ways to nurture a feeling of self-worth (being valuable; if only to oneself) and self-respect. I also read a lot of inspirational books. Two good (little) ones for starters are: Life's Little Instruction Book and Life's Little Instruction Book II, by H. Jackson Brown.

If this answer has been helpful to you, please rate it, and also, depending on how helpful (valuable) send me a thank you payment! Cheers!

Teaching

Thank you for your response. I feel you have misunderstood my intentions of my post completely. I am here to learn and also help others. My posts are to converse and to help/share notes, that's all.

Megg

I'm sorry but i dont kno what self-respect or worth is. I don't have any. I've been abused mentally by my father all my life til i got out at 19. Now 21 i am depressed and lonely even with the fiance i live with. It's ruining my life. How does someone like me gain self-worth or esstem?

Teaching

I am sorry to hear that, I think you should consider counselling to start. There are many experts in this site that will give you wonderful advice on how to do this. I believe there is always people in our life that come to help us through building our self-esteem. I am positive someone will walk in your life to bring you that strength.

Megg

Well thanx. I've made post's b4 about things like this. I just can't stop feeling like i just don't deserve to be happy...truely and more then a few hour's happy.

Teaching

You are worth it, please don't ever feel that way. You deserve happiness and love. Just think it and it will happen, I promise.

Megg

Yes, its a very easy thing to say, but harder to feel. Sure i have a fiance whom supports me, but even he doesn't know what ive delt with. It's hard to be happy with who you are when you don't knwo who you are. It's also hard to be happy with youself when you've been feed your a pile of dung all your life.

Teaching

You can change it by thinking positively, trust me it works. Read some of blueroses posts, they really are helpful. Don't give up on yourself.

Megg

ok i guess i can read them. How do i get more green squares? I want more, its my birthday soon. lol.