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You do seem to like quoting me out of context.

I did not say that "I do not judge them" I said that "I do not judge them on their decision." How about instead of misquoting and misinterpreting me,...

Since some comments have been made about my last post, I'll take a few moments to respond.



To be perfectly clear, what I wrote was:



I did not say that a person who decides to wait for...

A man becomes attracted to a woman for the same reasons that a woman becomes attracted to a man: when someone's emotional needs are satisfied by the sex that they are attracted to, they feel...

Not necessarily. A girl who likes a guy does so out of an emotional reaction, not a logical one. You can like a guy despite of certain behaviours. You don't have to like everything a person does to...

I have to say that, being the person I am, I would very quickly become irritated with a woman who did all these things. It is something that I would consider extremely disrespectful.

With that...

You may not know for sure whether she's having sex with the other guy, but I would assume she is. Even though my instincts say that she hasn't, I would still assume that they have because that's the...

A girl who is a virgin usually has a certain innocence about her that makes her seem extra feminine which is extremely attractive to some men.



For other men, they want a woman who is more...

I often talk to the girls in my life who are on online dating websites and the common thread I find about them is that a lot of people on there are in love with the fantasy of magically meeting "the...

It's possible that he likes the attention he's getting from you because you like him. I know that when I was younger I did something similar. Looking back I regret doing it because it led the girl...

You want to be friends with him because you are responding to him emotionally. This is a situation where you need to ignore the emotion and respond logically.

You've gotten lots of great advice,...

This sounds to me like an abusive relationship which you need to get yourself out of. As everyone else has said, you need to get yourself out of it.

A good question that you might ask yourself is...

One thing you might want to know for future reference, many women will assume that a man is most honest when he is angry. Some women will take this to the extreme of going out of her way to make you...

I get busy for a few weeks and a new guy enters the fray and they've started having sex.

Interesting.

And for the record, things like this are the norm when one is new to the idea of open...

No, she is not. If she were fulfilling your emotional needs, then you would be less inclined to look to have other women in your life. Emotional need #8 of men is SEX. If a woman does not have sex...

Well, yes a relationship does make the sex better but that's still not the point of a relationship. If you have enough casual sex, you find that, yes it is fulfilling, but only up to a point. Once...

Well, that's great to hear.

Things will be definitely awkward for a little while at least but as you become more comfortable with the issue, so will your friends.

Best of you luck to you.

Thank you. I have a much better picture of him now.



Being the class clown can be fun, but being a clown isn't really all that attractive to women. The fact that he's alone right now should...

You mentioned that you're in love with a jerk "again" so I'm wondering, does this mean that you've been in love with jerks in the past?

What I'm about to say may be extremely offensive to you, but...

That's his version of asking her out. She was too nice to say "No, I don't like you in that way." so she conceded by going as his friend. It means she likes him AS A FRIEND and nothing more.

The...

Well, that information is a start.

Can you talk more about what he's like when he interacts with a girl that he likes?

If he goes for gorgeous preppy girls, does he ever have any success with...

Well healthy in this context is relative.

The dynamic of this particular relationship requires a very different set of behaviours than those of a long-term relationship. The behaviours for this...

Sounds like she wants you to ask her out again after homecoming.

If she's only going with this guy as friends, then she may be attracted to you. I would ask again after homecoming.

Yeah, he's probably attracted to you on some level but it's in his best interest not to pursue a relationship with you.

Dating someone you work with is not the easiest thing to pull off, although...

This is a massive question with an answer that could fill several books.

My suggestion is to learn about the emotional needs, but that's always what I tell guys who having a hard time meeting...

Yes, I did advocate casual sex, but I never advocated casual sex over any other type of sex. I personally have no problems with two consenting adults engaging in sex as long as the circumstances do...

Heh, well I'm a pretty stable guy so I don't go through too many emotional states. So one for every emotion I go through and then some is really not that many.

Anyway, back on topic!

Not a problem. Forcing me to clarify reminds me that I have to be on the ball and not just giving out random advice.

And for men, sex IS an emotional need. He might just been incapable of being...

I do not deny that fact and it's something I agree with, however, not every can keep their heads as well as you must be able to.



This assumes that you are aware of when your emotional needs...

That is not what I was alluding to. I have never paid for sex in my life and if you were saying this to me in person I would find it extremely insulting. However, because this is an online board, I'm...

Two people stay in a relationship because they get something out of that relationship that they need. In other words, they stay in the relationship because some of their emotional needs are...

Shygrneyz has said it all.

This guy has to take your feelings into account. It's great that he's willing to lead and take action, but part of leading is taking into account how everyone feels...

You're welcome. I'm glad I could help.

There is something missing in your marriage or else she would not be looking to other people to get that. The matter is a complex and long-winded one to explain, but, in my opinion, if you were...

I think JB has the right idea in course of action here. The answer is improving your own relationship with your wife.

Let me ask you this: what is it about your marriage that isn't so great? What...

That's a beautiful sentiment, but in reality, things don't work that way.

I was in a long distance relationship for years and I'm telling you, as much as you love the other person, the distance...

What about this situation makes it more complicated than it is? If there other relevant points then it's best to get them out into the open now so that we can take it all into account before giving...

ZoeMarie's suggestion of the The 5 Love Languages is a good one in this situation. The book is designed for couples who are more or less normal, but just haven't figured out how to communicate to...

Well, sadly, you can't have it both ways.

He likes you so he's incapable of being friends with you. That friendship that you thought you had with him, was not really a friendship. That was him...

In order to break your connection to him, I would figure out what the basis of that connection is.

What is it about him that you like and that you don't like? What is it that makes you feel like...

Asking,



I'm not sure which part of my post implied this, but in some sense, that's correct. A woman has sex with a man because she finds him attractive and desirable to some degree. If he's a...

If you haven't had sex with her, then you don't have a relationship with her. For me, by definition, a relationship starts at sex.

This definition will likely upset some people but after being in...

My brother attended a free seminar hosted by a company that specializing in the topic that was presented. Part of the sign up form for attending the seminar stipulated that he would not be allowed to...

Monte Carlo's got the right idea on this one.

If he's unwilling to be exclusive with you then it's safe assumption that there's probably someone else. It is fairly tactless to introduce as "a...

If you can't talk to him then write him a note. Say that you like him but that you're really shy.

As for whether guys fall for pretty girls, yes they do. But the types of women guys like varies...

There's a great book by John Grey called Mars and Venus Starting Over. The book contains a lot of great information on how to heal a broken heart after a break-up and also contains some really great...

In my mind, I see your boyfriend's actions as a direct response to your relationship with M. And, to be absolutely honest, I would not be surprised if it turns out that he is actually cheating on you...

That's rough, man. My heart goes out to you.

I personally see a couple of different issues here which I will address separately.

The first is the fact that you lied. As everyone else has said, if you lie it messes with the relationship....

You are more than welcome.

One additional note. Be prepared for the possibility that she will call you in hopes of "hanging out" with you. From what you've written about this girl, this is very...

As twisted as you think her relationship with her boyfriend may be, she is still in it and that is because she CHOOSES to be in it. Do not make the mistake of thinking that she is the victim in all...