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Pardon me if I posted in the "wrong" place. I am new to the forum, but I certainly had not attacked anyone when posing a question along with my concerns. I think it is only natural to keep a...

It is so easy to do too much for your child, and yet leave them short-changed. I know you and your wife want the best and do all that you can to give your daughter those things. Unfortunately, you...

At 8 it is unlikely she suffers from an eating disorder, though not impossible. But she would have to be getting the idea from somewhere. I have a child who is also 8, and in the 25th percentile...

OK, I get the desire for people to be supportive of your plight, but honestly, you must have known he did and sold drugs during your pregnancy. It isn't like you delivered a baby and the light...

Do you have any children? If so, how would you feel about them spending hours in a bar every time they were with the other parent? I won't lie and say I've never taken my kids to a bar, but we go...

I don't see too many state run support agencies issuing refund checks. If you over-paid, you may have to sue your ex in civil court to recoup those losses. Then again, even if you did overpay, you...

I don't think it's about spending more time with our son (who is 9). He gathers with his friends and some family at a local bar every time our son is there, leaving our son with virtually nothing to...

My ex and I split up when our child was just 3. At the time I had a custody order drawn, I was not thinking about the future. I didn't plan for what would happen when he went to school, for...

Honestly? Just accept that you will have to hire an attorney. Pay the fee (usually less than normal) for a consultancy and find out what your options are and how realistic it is for you to have a...

Where is the OP from? In my state, I could marry a millionaire and his income means squat as far as child support goes. The only thing considered (whether I were to work or not) is what I earn or...

If you and your ex are such great friends and enjoy each other's company so much that you want to take this trip together, why is he your ex? If my husband took to hanging out with his ex wife in...

If your divorce agreement states that you must pay child support until your children are 19 and you have had no court ordered support changes in the past, you can stop paying as soon as your son is...

Scott, is that accurate in PA? Can you "create" a surname for your child that is not his/her legal last name? I am very interested in where you got this info. Please respond.

I thank you for your help. I didn't wait for a response though, and I did contact the mom myself. She took the kid to the ER to make sure the child as OK, then she filed a police report (No...

The mom obviously didn't plan on meeting MR. RIGHT who just happens to have the same last name she does when she gave this child his surname at birth, so the story that she won't change her son's...

Oh, I should also mention that this isn't the only kid in his care who seems to be lacking supervision... one of the other kids was left unattended in a vehicle with keys and drove into a fence...

But I was there... and the dad did know what was going on. But I am a friend of his parents'. I know he and his family hate the kid's mom, but her mom is good to her, and as far as I know, has...

I know first hand how hard it can be to deal with someone who is smooth with words and impressive to outsiders, but takes no hesitation when attacking a person seen as a threat. I have fought every...

Mother of your grand-daughter is honest, fair, and not misleading nor disrespectful of her role, whether she and your son are together or not. "my grand-daughter's mom....." fine. A first name is...

Seems pointless to force a guy to spend time with a kid if he doesn't already want to. What will that accomplish? Your ex will resent his child, and your child will see dad's disdain and resent his...

I know of a person whose child was hurt (not seriously) while in the care of a parent. (Parents are divorced and have both moved on.) The kid was with dad, who sees the kid a couple of times a...

I guess I wonder, how would you feel if your boyfriend had the same reaction toward your child? You say your kid never behaved this way... how old was he/she when you and the bio dad separated? ...

Just remember, no one can hold back a flood. Be a flood of strength and persistence. Every mother has that resource within her.

It is just sad to hear a grown woman whine about the antics of a 7 year old child. Kids are kids and adults are supposed to understand and try to be helpful. How do you think she would feel if her...

There is no shame on your part. I know you feel it, but you don't deserve to, and you shouldn't. This is your ex's shame. Treating someone miserably is usually a reflection of oneself. He...

Have you kept a regular routine? Bath at a certain time, story at a certain time, lights out at a certain time? Frustrating as it is, keep reinforcing it. Some kids take longer than others to...

Your post sounds to me like that of an immature person. I think you are jealous of his son. Get over it or leave. You and your child are NOT supposed to supercede your bf's son in anyway. If you...

I am a mom, and I'll be damned if my solution to this problem was to "shame" my child. If you want your son's behavior to change, then yours has to change. There should not be a punishment for poor...

I think all of your heartache and worry is another way of him manipulating you. Please don't allow that to happen again, or any longer. You are an independent, strong, loving mother. You have more...

Contact your local legal aid office. You can get the info from your county courthouse if need be. When is the temp. order set to expire? Did you not have an attorney when the child was placed...

Why did the kid get a haircut? Did he/she need one? Look unkempt? Do you have a custody order or did you not pursue one after dad disappeared? You don't have the "ultimate" right to make all...

That's a shame. But that means it all falls into your hands as far as how much time you get to spend with your grandson. Until there is a final custody order you have to do your best to play it up...

Just try not to get drawn into it. I know it is hard to hear those things your son's father says, but at the end of the day, you are the only person who determines what sort of relationship you and...

Ah, it's probably too late to respond by now, but I will try anyway. I have to say that the fast food exchange is absolutely harmless. As a matter of fact, it is likely the best thing for your...

What works for some clearly doesn't for others. Some people are good at finding the right gym, or workout. Some seem to give up loads of excess calories without much effort. The truth is, we all...

I think the most important thing you can do is get counseling for your son. You will need to participate, and make an effort to get his dad involved after a couple of sessions. Here is why: The...

As the mom of a 3 year old, yes, they are capable of name calling. Sometimes my son repeats what he has heard, but when he can't recall a mean word he has no trouble making up his own derogatory...

Contact an attorney... with a court order you do not need his consent, but must be able to provide a reason for your trip, and prove that you have purchased return flights.

What are his activities during the day? What is his diet? Keep seeking the help of medical professionals, even if you have to look beyond his PCP to get the attention you need.

There is no "right" answer to this question. Dating... not so awful in group settings in public places. I think the key to knowing what is right and when is really knowing your child. That begins...

No one judges you as harshly as you judge yourself... you have to find a way to make peace with yourself and be proud of who you are. I know it sounds ridiculous, but it is true. I bet you look...

Without a court order, reached either by consent between you and the father or as a judgment in court, you have no more legal right to your son or time with him than his dad. In some cases this...

Your child has the right to be financially supported by BOTH parents, regardless of their desire to be a parent. Even if you make more money than he does, if you are the primary caregiver of the...

You may be able to file where you are currently living, if there was never a court action where the two of you resided together... states are different on the amount of time you must reside there to...

Things are not going to get better if dad doesn't start backing you up. You two need to get on the same page-fast. Try talking to your husband about it again. If it doesn't work... well, maybe...

It is not illegal anywhere in the US, however, it is eventually going to be in the best interest of the kids to have rooms shared only by children of the same gender. I agree that you two should be...

Encouragement, encouragement, encouragement! Never utter a word to your son in frustration or anger and never punish him for his lack of communication. Instead, lead by example. Speak to him in a...

It sounds similar to the behavior of kids who secretly cut themselves. Causing yourself harm is a way of silently crying for help. You would do best by your friend to get his family involved. If...