my life is becoming dull & bothering.

S_R_B · Oct 8, 2009, 02:31 AM

i m a 24 yr old guy, working as a shopkeeper. i had never been in a relationship god knows why? i mean i m well educated, avg looking, financialy sound but still i dont have a single girl in my life. i had some school friends but now all the communication has gone. Simply saying, nowadays, my life is shop to home & home to shop 7 days a week(no holiday). there is nobody with whom i can share something. my interest in shop & life is decreasing. i feel so low that sometimes i feel i m useless or my life is useless. can u help me to sort out things..?

jmjoseph · Oct 13, 2009, 05:40 PM

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ok, i got a bit. but i had been waiting for a girlfriend from almost 14 yrs..!
secondly, i had proposed a girl around 8 yrs back. i wrote a letter to her saying that if u accept then keep that letter in ur bag, if not leave it there, & if u want to talk, then wait 5 min. for me i will come to you( i was hiding behind her). she stand there for 5 min.( but i m such dud that i didn't go to her, just watched her), then she wrote that its exam time & also she think that she should concentrate on her studies. my heart just broke there. after that i called her but she refused to talk to me.! dont know why..? if she doesnt liked me then why did she stand there 5 min. for me?
after that incident i was never able to even like any girl in that way, proposing is a far thing!
but i dont know why, any girl didn't looked at me in that manner, as she liked me.? is i m that bad.? i think i hv everything but suddenly i feel i hv nothing coz nobody likes me.? i dont know where is the problem?

You proposed when you were 16? Is that common where you are from?

The most important thing for you to do is go places and do things that you like, and you will find someone that has common interests. Maybe have a friend,or friends fix you up on a "blind date"with one of their friends.

Good luck to you.

JudyKayTee · Oct 13, 2009, 06:32 PM

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secondly, i had proposed a girl around 8 yrs back. i wrote a letter to her saying that if u accept then keep that letter in ur bag, if not leave it there, & if u want to talk, then wait 5 min. for me i will come to you( i was hiding behind her). she stand there for 5 min.( but i m such dud that i didn't go to her, just watched her), then she wrote that its exam time & also she think that she should concentrate on her studies. my heart just broke there. after that i called her but she refused to talk to me.! dont know why..? if she doesnt liked me then why did she stand there 5 min. for me?
after that incident i was never able to even like any girl in that way, proposing is a far thing!

I'm a female. I don't like "boys" who play games and that's exactly what this was - "wait 5 minutes if you care for me." Then you hid, watched her and she left after 5 minutes and you can't figure out what the problem is?

S_R_B · Oct 19, 2009, 04:24 AM

thank you .!
i really find ur advice helpful.

S_R_B · Oct 19, 2009, 05:14 AM

i m a shopkeeper, my timings are 10am to 10 pm, 7 days a week.! i find my life very dull, i mean, i hv no way to enjoy my life, its so boring. no excitement. everyday when i woke up, i feel, oh god its morning again..!

one of my friend told me that you should hv 1 holiday in a week so that u hv time for urself.

Now tell me what is the importance of a weekly off ? is it useful for me?

JudyKayTee · Oct 19, 2009, 05:39 AM

I don't know it's as much having a day off as doing something on a day off.

What are your hobbies?

I realize you do not have a girlfriend. Perhaps meeting someone would be helpful for you.