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brokensouled · Jan 10, 2009, 10:26 PM

I'm a very emotional person and I know it's been the cause of some of my personal problems. My question is, what is the pain I still feel after years of being single? It's like a constant pain and anxiety in my chest and has recently caused health problems. What can I do to let go?

Choux · Jan 13, 2009, 06:44 PM

The secret to a happy peaceful life is to learn how to be content in all circumstances. :)

I recommend you search out a place to learn about Buddhism...

Very best wishes, :)

martina59 · Jan 18, 2009, 06:51 AM

Is it possible for you to try and become more social. I realize for some, that's very difficult to do, but the more you reach out to others, the more established friendships can be formed.

A fantastic place to do that is a church. Most Christian organized churches have people. There who are very welcoming, and warm. God is the key to love, peace, joy and contentment (He's the one who began it all)! :)

Also, see your doctor, it's important he/she knows how you're feeling, both physically, AND emotionally, and you may get a lot of support and help from that as well!!

Crista · Feb 6, 2009, 10:15 PM

Meditation could work or yoga

Illusion · Feb 21, 2009, 01:32 AM

Hello Brokensoul - I had written out a long post for you - but it got lost when I tried to post it - so I will try again to give you my take on your situation.

Illusion · Feb 21, 2009, 03:25 PM

Dear Brokensoul - Ok, let me try this again. I was having trouble with the computer yesterday so let me see if my answer goes through today.

I, like you, am an emotional person. I don't see that as a reason for personal problems. Rather, I see that our outlook, our lack of understanding and coping skills affect our emotional well-being. Sometimes if we have not dealt with a painful experience, acknowledged the feelings and what happened, what went wrong, we end up incorporating the experience - and the bad feelings associated with it to our self-esteem. So we end up in depression or pain or with a sense that we have failed somehow.

With the little you wrote, I can only assume that you may have thoughts and feelings connected to you being a single person - maybe you wanted a partner and it didn't work out, or you want a new partner and feel that you won't find someone. There is more going on here - you want to let go of the pain - but first you will need to let go of whatever idea or experience has caused you to feel this way. Once you know what is hurting you, what is behind these feelings, then you can work on letting go of the painful feelings.

Write back and say how you are doing.