Okay I am 21 years old and I have a 3 month old little girl. Her dad has just decided that he wants to be in the picture now. We went through the whole DNA mess and all that. When we broke up I had no intentions of getting back together with him BUT I found out I was pregnant, those feelings for him are no longer there. However he is dating a new girl and it drives me crazy. He works out of town, and in my opinion he should want to see his little girl but he chooses to spend more time with her sometimes. I don't want to make him sound like a bad guy because he really has came around allot lately. But, its just that I feel like so many lines are being crossed, the mother of his girlfriend had the photographer that took her three month old pictures send her the pictures. She is not her grandmother!! I would understand if they would maybe ask me, but its like they have to hide it from me or something. The thought of it really bothers me. I don't know how to get over this. I know i am young, and "I should talk to her" blah blah blah, but that doesnt help, its like everything I do something happens and again another line is crossed. While I was pregnant they talked so much crap about me, and its like now they want to be such a big part of MY DAUGHTERS life. I do not believe my child's father will be with girl forever, he won't I know this so what I am asking is how do I suck it up and put a smile on my face? How do I let it not bother me? I am not a mean, jealous, or spiteful person, but this is something new I have felt before, I hate her for no reason =(

Illusion

Well, I am glad that you are clear that you do not want to go back with him. The person that you need to have a talk with is your ex-boyfriend. He is the Father of the baby and he needs to discuss with you any visits or anything involving the baby. You and his girlfriend have no business to discuss. That is his life and you need to let him know that anything having to do with the baby he will need to discuss with you. The fact that they got some pictures of the baby - the Father needed to have made prior arrangements with you if he wanted some pictures. I would also complain to the photographer as Ruby mentions above.

I think you have a right to be angry - when you were pregnant you wrote they talked about you. Yeah, no wonder you don't like them. And whatever the reason you broke up, it was still a loss. Now, after many months he has decided to come around for the baby's sake. And you feel angry and don't like the girlfriend - with good reason. This makes sense. Your ex is her Father and that is good that he is paying some things for the baby and wanting to see her. Your business is with the Father - he needs to deal with the girlfriend and her family. You have a right to feel bothered - this is your baby and your life. You don't want someone around you and your baby that has been unkind to you. Let him know that any arrangements, visits, etc. regarding the baby need to be discussed with you and no one else. Take care.