Buy Your Own Flowers

bluerose · Feb 28, 2007, 06:30 AM

When I was still married, and when my kids were still at home, I could always count on getting some flowers. But now, divorced and with kids grown and flown, I miss them all of course, but I also missed receiving flowers. Then it came to me, I could go buy myself some flowers. It was an amazing realisation for me. I never did anything for myself before without feeling guilty.

So I bought myself some flowers. I didn't spend a lot, just enough to tell myself I was worth it. It felt good, and every time I looked at them I felt good. Now when I think back to that time, what I remember most is the power I felt at taking care of my own wants and needs.

I had learned to take care of myself, to give myself gifts. I learned to give myself what I needed instead of waiting around for others to give it to me.

It began with a small bunch of flowers and grew into full personal and spiritual independence.

We were taught that we had to wait to be told how wonderful and loved we are. But we don't, not anymore. We can love, respect and appreciate ourselves just as we are.

Teach your children that it is okay to buy themselves a nice card or a small gift simply because they are worth it. Teach your children to do nice things for themselves as well as others. Teach them that they do not have to spend their life waiting for someone to give them these things.

Think of the special things you can do for yourself. If you have a special someone, that is a bonus. But, the only person who stays with us from the time we are born until the day we die is our own self. Shouldn't we appreciate that special person too. Give yourself a gift.

bluerose · Oct 18, 2007, 04:16 AM

double post!!!! Sorry.

NeedKarma · Oct 18, 2007, 04:31 AM

Nope, but I bought myself a nice bottle of wine.

bluerose · Oct 18, 2007, 05:10 AM

Good for you. What kind? Friday night is my wine night. What would you recommend?

NeedKarma · Oct 18, 2007, 05:15 AM

I'm into Pinot Noir lately. It's light so the wife can enjoy a glass too. Some nice ones coming out of California.

bluerose · Oct 18, 2007, 05:26 AM

Just taken a note of that one. Thank you.

kiki_doki · Nov 25, 2007, 03:05 PM

I love this post!!! I do buy myself flowers, have done for a while as they brighten the place up. Never thought about it from your point of view though. And I do find that us mum's dont give ourselves a (well deserved) pat on the back every now and again (and/or a treat). Although my children are still young and tell me I'm the best mum.....I love it!!!! but you know what they say: theres no praise like self praise!!!

HistorianChick · Jan 11, 2008, 06:18 AM

Wonderful post!!! I started buying myself flowers when I was living all by myself in China.... VERY far from family and friends, lost in a sea of people I didn't know and couldn't talk to. It became my own little silver lining, gave me joy in so many ways. Even today, when I see lilies, it makes me smile.

Taking time for yourself, spending money on yourself, giving yourself a moment of relaxation is one of the little nuggets of truth I've learned.

Thanks for this great post!

N0help4u · Jan 11, 2008, 01:33 PM

I never had anybody buy me flowers.
When I am downtown the one flower vendor has the flowers the others didn't sell the other day for a dollar a dozen. When I see a really pretty dozen roses I buy them.
I take them home and dry them. I had a living room full until my cats decided they were batting toys.



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