I swear I live on Wysteria Lane. I have the worst neighbors ever. They are nosy, rude, obnoxious and mean. I hate it. Yet I have to be nice because otherwise it would be WW3 around here. I have turned a blind eye for months, trying to ignore rude comments, all the lies and the jealousy. I have been the bigger person because I am too busy to be bothered by such nonsense. WEll these same neighbors who have the audacity to leave my daughter out when the whole neighborhood is on their trampoline, to leave their daughter over my house all day, while they don't even speak to me or my daughter. It is the most screwed up thing. I want to tell her to go home, but it isn't her fault I feel I am being manipulated and I hate that!!! I want to scream right now, because I can't confront her mom, she is a true nutcase!! I am not trying to be rude, she just really is off her rocker. What do I do????

Fr_Chuck

not allow her to leave her daughter at your house, send child home, stand up for your child. You get walked over because you allow yourself to be.

shatteredsoul

Yes, I get that. I do understand your point. Although when 3 other children in the neighborhood are playing and she is out front by herself wanting to play, my children know not to leave anyone out, even if someone does it to them. I guess I don't want to be taken advantage of in one way, but I don't want to be like the girl's mom who is evil to her daughter. Her daughter isn't to blame. I just let her play even though I know it isn't really fair that she is here. It is a tough place to be, I always include every kid in the neighborhood, I couldn't leave one out because her mom is a jerk. I just hate all the things her mom has done in the past. There is so much more to this, I could go on and on, but I won't. Lets just say I have other neighbors like her, they like to spy on us, when we come and go. They make up lies. I just ignore it. I just don't want to make the kid feel bad. But yes in a way, you are right.

Marily

You should be carefull with whom your child is being friends to. As for your neighbours, the best thing i can think of is to ignore them, if you give them attention will only give them a boost to be even more nasty to you.

shatteredsoul

That is so true, I do need to be careful. I do keep to myself and just ignore all of them, but when their daughter comes over because she sees other kids over, I let her play so I don't make her feel bad. How do I not let her over and not create more drama with the parents?? I know they are taking advantage by having her come to my house. I don't even speak to them and I haven't for months since they were rude to my daughter. I have even caught the mom staring at my daughter from her window when my kids are out front playing. She freaks me out! I used to have her daughter over all the time, took her everywhere, sleepovers, mall, beach, movies. I stopped doing all that. Now because its summer and she doesn't send her kids to camp or anything, she thinks she can pawn her off on me. Well I had a bunch of kids over swimming and she comes knocking on the door. I didn't want to let her in, but I felt I had to. Its not the kids fault and then I am being mean to a child, right?? I don't know. Its frustrating.

Marily

If this has a negative influence on your daughter you should not let her come over anymore, otherwise just keep an eye over them

startover22

Shattered, do I need to kick some booty for you. I am on my waaaayyyyy!!!! How is the situation now? Any better?

shatteredsoul

I just put an imaginary bubble around me everytime I go outside. I act like they aren't even there. It is hard when I hear the crap they make up and how rude they are, but that is their problem, not mine. I can't stand ignorant people, that are nasty!!!!! My mother taught me way better than that. THAS WASSUP!!!

startover22

Good job. Poor girl with a no good pair of parents. Not fair to her at all. It sure is hard to hold your ground in this kind of situation. i am a push over in some aspects, this would be a hard one for me. Good day today!!

shatteredsoul

You have no idea about how awful she has it. I do feel sorry for her . But I can't continue to let her around with the way the parents act. It is sad. Yes, I would love for someone to come kick her mom's butt. She screams and curses at me in the street and makes up lies. I have another neighbor who spies on us constantly. It is aggravating!!!!!!!!!!!