I swear I live on Wysteria Lane. I have the worst neighbors ever. They are nosy, rude, obnoxious and mean. I hate it. Yet I have to be nice because otherwise it would be WW3 around here. I have turned a blind eye for months, trying to ignore rude comments, all the lies and the jealousy. I have been the bigger person because I am too busy to be bothered by such nonsense. WEll these same neighbors who have the audacity to leave my daughter out when the whole neighborhood is on their trampoline, to leave their daughter over my house all day, while they don't even speak to me or my daughter. It is the most screwed up thing. I want to tell her to go home, but it isn't her fault I feel I am being manipulated and I hate that!!! I want to scream right now, because I can't confront her mom, she is a true nutcase!! I am not trying to be rude, she just really is off her rocker. What do I do????

METERRE

I have to say.....GEEZ!!!!!! What the heck is that person thinking!!!???
I've met just once or twice someone who stalks a little, but to that degree?....i think she needs either some legal intervention or psychological intervention. Seriously, if that is a normal day for you, congratulations on not going crazy. I would have already. Hate it when people violate privacy. But good for you that you don't pay attention to that, keep it up, but there is no reason for someone to stalk anyone like that, it's your own private life...it seems like that person is trying to live your life or watch you like if you were a soap opera or movie. Just is not at all normal.
The only time i've been stalked so obviously was like two years ago. I went to the library, and went upstairs. Seemed like no one was there so i thought, i'll have peace and quiet and privacy here. But the next thing i noticed was someone standing next to me, "casually" looking for a book. So at that time i didn't think much of it...cause it looked perfectly normal. Then i moved to another aisle to look at other books. A few seconds later, he came to the aisle i was at and stood almost next to me. So i one more time moved to a different aisle, and there he went just a few seconds later, but this time, he was acting like he was searching books at the bottom, like i was, and through the corner of my eye i saw he bent down, his butt facing me, but i didn't turn to look. I did catch a glimpse of something that looked pinkish. I just hope it wasn't his bare butt or something. Then i just left.
Then, exactly one week later, i returned to the library to resume my interrupted session of book searching. But as i went up the stairs, i could see someone on top looking down at me, but i didn't think it was the same guy. Guess.....it was. But i went on as if normal, so he proceeded to go to where i was at. I spent about 3 minutes there, and so did he....then i moved, seconds later there he was....moved again and there he went.
But then, i moved and sat on a stool to read a book, so then he sat down also on the floor right next to the aisle, pretending to read a book too. Suddenly i got up, and moved, funny i hadn't noticed what section i went to. Then the guy actually proceeded to ask me..." Do you know where the dictionary section is?" I said..." I don't know." but seconds after, i looked at the shelf and first thing i saw were dictionaries. LOL!!
He left and came back pretending he had just found the dictionary section. Right there he talked to me. Asked me if i liked dogs or had any cause he'd seen me reading training books. Then he said a few more things to me, and i responded, but just that. Later i just got up and left to the check out, checked some books out and headed outside.
I got stopped by lights, and glanced to my side, there he was. And he asked me...
" Hey weren't you just inside?" Lights turned green and i kept on walking, with him right by my side. Then he asked my age and other things i don't recall....he said i was pretty and who knows what else. Kept following like blocks until i saw the bus station was near so i headed to the buses. There he went. I got on a random bus, and thought he had gone somewhere else. From inside the bus later, i saw he also was going to take a bus, the good thing was he didn't take the one i was on.
Conclusion, I didn't return to the library for the rest of summer vacation. When i got home, i looked at the webpage which shows registered sexual predators, didn't find him there, but would've gotten grossed out if i had. Haven't seen him anymore since then, and i'm glad. Oh and so sorry if i wrote too much. I know i should've told the people at the library that he was stalking me, but i didn't want to create a problem, they probably found out later.
Oh and so sorry if i wrote too much. I hope it doesn't bother you.
Have a wonderful weekend and keep it up ignoring such behavior of those people. But i don't think they should in any way be interfering with your privacy. Tell someone or something. It's just wrong.

Canada_Sweety

shatteredsoul

Wow, That is a creepy story!!! I don't think that I would have handled that as well as you. Don't apologize, this is about being nice to nasty people. YOU handled it nicely and that guy seemed NASTY!!! Why are some people so creepy?? YOu are right, I think she is trying to watch my life like it is a movie or something. OK well it ain't that exciting!! I mean, I was friends with her in the past so she should know that. Like you said, I have to keep my head up and keep moving!
OR like CanadaSweety said, PAY IT NO MIND!!!
I went out for my birthday this weekend and when my friends showed up and the hummer limo arrived that my husband rented, you should have seen her face PLASTERED ON her front window. Just staring away!! I was like, yeah you aren't coming so look all you want! I didn't really say that, but I was thinking it. Actually last year she came out for my birthday. One of my friends warned me that she is a little off. Boy, was she right!!!

Keep sharing and never apologize. I enjoy hearing from you. Happy Monday to all!!

happylady123

Bad neighbors do stink. And although it's not their kids fault it's not yours either. They don't take about leaving your child out, so why do them any favors. I'm sure their kid has more friends so let those people take the hassle. Although you need to be somewhat personable to these morons it is okay to let them know when they are being rude. Instead of being rude and making comments that will fire them up it's best to say something that will make them feel embarrassed with what they say. Make them realize it was wrong. Next time they say something stupid ask them why they said that. Next time she curses at you ask her what her problem is and why she is doing that with her kids around. Good luck

Marily

I tend to ignore people that say and do negative things to me, when they curse i bless , or just plainly ignore then, sooner or later they get bored of not getting any negative responses from me and would just simply leave me alone, believe me to ignore such people or even pretend they dont exist works like a bomb

METERRE

Hello. Here I am again. Man i missed writing on this board, I was gone for a whole month. I went to Oregon with my aunt and her husband over in Albany, and i was aching to come back home. They live in a ranch where they grow all sorts of veggies and stuff. Corn, green beans, cauliflour, broccoli, mint, and many other things. Their backyard is basically a corn field. The views are beatiful, but honestly after a while you have to miss the city.
It all happened so fast, they came one Sunday, and had to leave that same day, they offered to take me with them, so i said yes. And i didn't have time to do anything.
There's no computer over there so i also missed the internet a lot.
Well one thing I learned from my journey is patience, and i continued learning how to drive....still not doing too good but there's been quite a few progress.
Now what i'd like to know is how are you guys all doing??? What has happened in this whole month????
Shatteredsoul, are you still around here? or did i already miss you???

shatteredsoul

Hey so glad you are back! Yes I am still here! So, glad you are learning the value of patience, it sure is something difficult and I am still learning it myself. I am doing ok, and things are fine. The summer ended so fast and now, its back to the grind. My daughter started middle school and that was a little bumpy but I think she will be fine. I had a falling out with my best friend and I started a thread about it. It basically is a done deal. We went to Islands of Adventure and Universal with her and her children. IT went well but then after she went home everything kinda fell apart. I asked her why she said some stuff about me and I probably should have left well enough alone. It turned ugly and she got very defensive. I am guessing I won't hear from her.
As for my neighbors, I have been following all of the advice to ignore them and do my own thing. I don't say anything because she is like a ticking time bomb. WEll, hopefully you are doing well. I can't wait to chat!!

METERRE

Well you know what, I'm so glad things have gone ok for you. You are so right summer kinda flew by. And starting Middle School is a bit of a challenge, lots of new things going on, kind of confusing for the start. But i think later she will enjoy it, well atleast i did back then. You just gotta be there for her, don't leave her alone and if she has older brothers or sisters, they could help in guiding her and giving her security.
As you well know, Home is our sanctuary, atleast it's supposed to be. Lot's of times it isn't a safe place for many people and it's sad. I'm also sorry about your friend, what got her to turn on you?
What happened with your plan about moving? Are you still working on it, or did you change your mind? But anyway you're doing good ignoring those pesky neighbors of yours, i hope you keep it up.
One thing i hadn't mentioned from my trip was the weird feeling i came home with, and another reason i was so anxious to come back.
As i mentioned, I went to Oregon with my Aunt and her husband. Well first things seemed alright and everything, but the last week and a half, her husband started getting kind or "gooey" with me. He used to go with me to practice driving every evening, but one day he took my hand off the steering wheel, and held it but he said i should practice driving with one hand. So i didn't think much of it then, he grabbed it several times though but i payed it no attention. Then the next days he started grabbing my hair, touching the side of my chest or the back of my head. He had never displayed any signs of affection towards me the times i had gone before, in fact i thought he didn't care at all about me. And i also didn't have any affection towards him even though he's my aunt's husband.
So i guess i should say it made me feel weird, and i should also mention he had been telling me why he married my aunt and that they had problems and stuff. Two days before we came back, he still did those touchy, grabby, things and then he said he was going to miss me, that he could already feel it and then he said liked me a lot, but that the problem was the situation. So needless to say that creeped me out. I didn't tell him anything, but at that point i just wanted more badly to come back home. For the last two days over there, i tried avoiding going for a drive with him. Just tried avoiding him, period.
I don't have it clear if he meant it in that way, or not, but i'd rather not know. And i don't really want to go back there, atleast not soon.
Well i hope i didn't bore you out or something. Just felt the need to share that.
May your day go well and i'm glad you're still here Shatteredsoul.

shatteredsoul

OMG that is really dreadful! What an awful and uncomfortable situation to be in! I had an uncle like that, but I wasn't alone with him more than once, for that reason, EWWWW!@Q!
I am so sorry to hear about that. YOu did the right thing by keeping your distance and you are so right on about that being weird and giving you the creeps. IT is a good thing he didn't try to do anything else, I am sure that was coming. My stomach turned just reading about it and YOU MOST CERTAINLY DID NOT BORE ME!! I am really glad you shared that you must have been sick on the way home, and yes I can see why you wouldn't want to EVER EVER go back. YOUR poor aunt, I don't know how you will explain it to her but geez!
I want to talk more about this I am getting ready to pick up my daughter but I will be back on, so keep sharing. Thank you for you kind thoughts. I do appreciate your interest.
GLAd your back!! Hugs to you

METERRE

Yeah well, he was right though, they do have problems. As the last night we were there they argued a lot. And i'm so not trying to defend him at all, but he doesn't seem like those people who would actually go forward and do something else. You know what i mean. He kind of seemed rather nice about the way he did what he did. But it definitely was creepy, especially having in mind the way he used to treat me before, which was not too good.
And you know what, i think they don't love each other though, perhaps they never did, atleast my aunt really seems like she doesn't care that much for him or atleast as her husband, so if she ever hears about this i'm really hoping it won't affect her way too much. I didn't tell her anything because she has a surgery coming, and because if i said anything, not really knowing for sure if his intentions were bad, then guess how i would come out to look. But anyway if i see him again, given that he comes over here to see his family once in a while, and i notice anything further than what happened, then i'll have to tell her.
And you know what, now that i mentioned his family, i've got to say that his family is kind of like your neighbors, they've made my family's life difficult. Made stuff up, and many things similar to what you go through. The only thing that keeps their family from going further with their meddling, is that my aunt has been a life-long friend to them. And that is exactly the same reason why they feel they can meddle.
But to top it off though they have an aquaintance with the other family which basically wants our head. Just to picture it how we feel it. They're all full of gossip and don't look to see who they're doing wrong.
So you're not alone, we've gone through these things for years now. Overall though a lesson is to not have any resentment, but how can we not have any if they even beat up my mom when i was a kid. That's just enough to boil anyone's blood. Just imagine. No better that you don't. It's not a pretty feeling in any way.
Well thanks also for your interest and i have to go somewhere right now but i too will be back later.