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Hi my name is Robert and I just found out that I was a father. I have wanted to be a father my entire life. Now my son, Damian, is 22 Months and I want to be the best Daddy in the world. I just have a few questions to ask and I would like to know if I could have some feedback answers...
1. How can I introduce myself as his father after almost 2 years?
2. How do I help him in his growing years?
3. Am I wrong for showing him to much affection? ( ex. picking him him up, holdin him, giving him what he want )
4.not really a question, If any fathers are reading this please give me some tips and pointers.
Hopefully, Ill get a few comments and feedbacks. Thank you very much for your time.
1] I don't know.. I have adopted, so perhaps having the child's mother introduce you might help.
2] Be involved, physically [ prescence, as opposed to being at work all the time ], spiritually, financially, emotionally, when he is in school or in activities etc.
Teach him right and wrong.
Love him unconditionally.
Teach him to respect himself, and others, especially women.
Play and laugh with him.
Be patient and even tempered..... he follows your example.
3] Too much affection - no way. Spoiling him is another thing.
You missed a lot of the great stuff, but this is the age where it all really starts to matter.
1. You introduce yourself as routine as possible, try to do fun things and do them repeatedly. Like Mcdonalds playpark, or other common interests you may have.
2. Just be there and it should come to you.
3. Ya, I understand its probably surreal and hard to emotionally adjust. Hugs and kisses will come, it may not hurt to push your self a little.
4. When I was younger I thought there was no meaning to life, now my daughter is just that. She's three, and this last year has been amazing because she communicates at such a high level now. Today she told me to relax. LOL
How did this new fathership come about?
Greetings and WELCOME to the site, Robert, and congratulations on being a dad!
I did just move your question out of Introductions to a more appropriate topic area so that it will get noticed more. Introductions is where people introduce themselves only, and we try not to ask questions there.
I am curious as to what your relationship/situation is at the present with the child's mother, if you wouldn't mind sharing that. It might help people here to answer you the best, if they were to know how things are.
First I too would like to know more about your relationship with the mother? Because this will play a big role in how much of a role you will have in the babies life. Hopefully you two can work out what ever differences you had. I think at 22 months he is way too young to realize that you are daddy or just some man. so don't let that hang you up. Being there, playing with and loving him are his biggest concerns in life right now. That and a loving adult, whether it be mom, dad or a day care provider, to him they are all the same. Someone to provide for his needs. You on the other hand need to get your life and priorities in order to establish a long term bonding with him so that even if you and mom cannot reconcile that you will both provide a mature loving atmosphere in which he can grow up.
I agree with donn, before I can answer these question, especially the first one, I would need to understand the whole family dynamics here. What was and is your relationship to the mother? Is there another father figure involved. Why did you just find out about it?
I dont think you can ever be TO INVOLVED! really....
thats GREAT that your getting invloved now....better than never
Dont try to hard or anything....
Be a good friend/awsome parent
thats what kids look for...no matter what age...
I am not a religious fanatic but find a good Sunday School as early as possible.
Good moral education is just as important as readin, ritin and rithmatic.
First at 22 months its a little early for Sunday School. Second, who says a Sunday School has a monopoly on moral education or is even necessary for one. And who said anything about friendship?
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