I am just devastated by the way my son treats me. Tonite he called me a ho and tells me every day that I am worthless. I have been here for him while his father, my ex husband went years without seeing him at all. I have helped him so much and tried so hard to give him a decent life. I am off work right now because my older son was seriously injured in an IED blast in Afghanistan last year and it put me right over the edge. I am trying to get my life back together but each and every day he tears me back down. He is 6'6" tall and over 200 pounds, very intimidating when he is angry, which is often. He hates everything I say and do. I have tried everything from ignoring him, to taking him to counseling (where he will not talk or says everything is fine) to disciplining him, to no avail. His father is no help as he blames me as he always has. We have been divorced since my son was three years old. I am a professional with three university degrees which I did while raising my kids as a single parent. I have given my kids the best life I can. Now all I get is abuse. It is sad but I really feel worn out and hopeless.

ksatagaj

I agree with Sophia 3X- I have been through much of the same- my son is older- he is 24. His Dad was hardly ever around, but nonetheless, when we split- I was the one who got all the blame- "maybe if you hadn't nagged him so much, yelled so much......" It was all MY fault. All you can do is TRY to talk to him- let him know how much you love him. Spend time with just him. The last one is what I wish I had done more of- I tried to spend as much time as I could with him- but boys are hard. In my own way, I tried. I spent time with my daughter, and tried to force my then husband to spend time with his son- took my daughter out for ice cream and videos- and when I got home, my son was sitting by himself on the couch while my ex-husband played on the computer. Not so sure about the counseling thing, though- your son sounds a lot like mine- I tried taking him a couple of times too, and he told me that he knows how to say what every one wants to hear. Your problem is that you have to stop beating yourself. That is mine too. I think that is a lot of women's problems. You sound like a good Mom to me. You need to let your son know that too.

misskobe

well my teenage son who is 16 doesnt call me a Ho ~ but he is extrememly disrespectful , like he is one step away from going over the line. Yelling at him is hopeless i see that with my son . I tried to be really nice but that too seems to not help . my son is taller then me and is intimidating too . It is really tough with kids this age. I saw an interview somewhere that ok , kids have problems sometimes , they dont have perfect personalities ect. But it isnt your job to make them a good person or to even to make them happy 24/7 . Sometimes the best thing you can do is guide them the best you can in the right diretion , but they make their own decisions and choices at this age. I would have to say try to save your own sanity before trying to improve his attitude. I am working on this myself because my teen son makes me feel like i will go insane . So sometimes i just zone out of that worried , depression that i get into when my son makes me feel bad. sometimes I just shut the thoughts of him out of my mind. I tell myself that he will be an adult and that i can only do so much and then he will go one day and hopefully he will be a better person . I know easier said than done. It is so distressing I know , but take it from me , I go through it too and so do many many others. so you are not alone. just hang in there.