My husband wants to give up his parental rights of his son to his ex-wife and her new husband. The divorce was finalized in IL so we have to go by IL laws. Where would I get forms to start this process?

excon

Hello again, N:

You're not going to convince me you're right, just because the story is even worse than you said. Of course, there's more story. But, in terms of the advice you've received here, the story doesn't matter.

What matters is what you're doing, or not doing. You're not doing anything. THAT is the problem - not the Jesus freaks.

You are STILL putting your parenthood, or lack thereof, on a MONETARY basis. Then you use FAULTY numbers to make your decisions on. I guess, so you can walk away and feel blameless. Bummer for your kid.

If you spent HALF as much time looking for lawyers that won't rip you off, or the other half going to court on your own to FIGHT for your son, then you could actually have an effect on your childs life. But, you'd rather go down the road blaming her for YOUR bad.

Family court IS user friendly!!!!!

I don't like excuses. I don't like parents who act like they're observers. I like parents who ACT like parents.

excon

bushg

She tells him to call his stepfather 'daddy' and i told him that he will not do that when he is here and he doesn't call me 'mom'.



The parents need to be the parents....mom and dad need to parent this child. You need to stay out of it...unless you are encouraging your husband to act like a father. Real fathers want to give their children money to eat, buy clothes with etc... doesn't your child deserve to eat and have her father pay for it so does your step-child. Stop trying to help him shirk his responsibilities by playing the blame game. Whether he is a part of this childs life or not the child needs to eat etc...

I am the step mom of a now grown 23 year old . Not once did I ever tell him what to do...but I did encourage my husband to pay every penny he was due and I never got into the mind playing games with the ex. There were a few times that as he got older he would come to me over both his drama mom and drama dad. Kids are smart they figure things out. p.s I made sure dad payed every penny he owed even when the boy dropped out of school. I told him he still needs to eat.

ldyastrid

Children play parents.... and it sounds very much like he's playin both you and his mother... Have you even considered that his mom may not be telling him the things he tells you she's sayin?

He doesn't want to go home when he's with you.... he doesn't want to go with you when he's at home. She tells him it's ok to break things while he's at your house... he tells her he gets in trouble for breaking things he didn't break. The kid is telling tales... trying to get a reaction from all of you... and it seems to be working!

Dad giving up his rights isn't going to change a thing... the more he works, the more he pays. This is his child and he has an obligation to support him. Period - you need to come to grips with the idea that this child from another woman is in his life and will be a part of your life for as long as you are married to his father.

Sounds to me like you never see your husband and you have his son more than him - maybe that's what the real issue is - you don't want his child from a previous relationship around... and you don't like sending money to his mother when you want to use it for yourselves/your family.

Perhaps I'm wrong... but it sounds more like YOU have the issue - not Dad.

NBond86

My husband asked me to look up information about relinquishing rights and the internet hasn't helped me in the least so, I decided maybe somebody on here had an answer. As for where the money goes... he eats junk food and fast food. He doesn't get clothes bought for him over there, they're from a church. He was here for almost two months and she still needed to save up for gas money when she didn't have her son? I want his son to be healthy mentally and physically and it's not happening going back and forth. What happens to the child and what the child does is a big factor in deciding what is in the child's best interest. He will not be allowed to destroy things that aren't his and get away with it. And if he only displays that behavior here, perhaps he should stay with his mother and stepfather.