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I have a 16 year old son, he's disrespectful, hateful, foul mouthed and the boundarys we set mean nothing to him. I can't let him disrupt my home any longer and want to throw him out. Is there any way I can get him out of my house legally?
thats not really motherly o.o Taking the easy way out? And no. Maybe have him to stay with a aunt or someone close. You might be able to give him to someone else but again sounds like the easy way. Try theorpy and/or being a parent. Dont take that stuff from him.
He didn't get this way overnight. Please go with him (or even without him) to a counselor who works with teen boys. You will learn new parenting skills.
I was hoping for some real advice. We're currently IN counseling...that's gotten him off the drugs...Motherly???no...I'm the dad. I wouldn't be GIVING him to anyone. He thinks he's a big boy....let him get a dose of reality. He's six foot three and thinks he owns the friggin world.
The counselor should be giving you advice. Most teens think they own the "friggin world". I'll bet you did too when you were that age. Keep going to the counselor.
I like your quote....it was first demonstrated by King David.
His counselor isn't offering any advice, he's just saying that he's making progress......and getting him off drugs is progress, I guess. My son does tell me often that he likes drugs and wants them, but won't do them as long as I'm around.......that's his "upper hand".....but nevertheless, he's off the drugs. Now the temper......I was out of town all week and he and his mother got along fine....as soon as I get home today, he's got a chip on his shoulder.....he's mad...really mad....because I told him that if he continued in his disrespectful, etc....ways, he would have to go to Texas and live with my brother....and his 4 kids...he didn't like that much, because my bro runs a tighter ship than I do. I also have another son with Aspergers Syndrome that wants nothing more than peace in the home....poor guy can't get that with his brother around. Always picking a fight with my wife or I.
Lay down some rules then, take away the computer, ipod, etc... if he does something wrong. Send him to his room if he wants to be annoying, dont go to his level. If he behaves well then give back his stuff, little by little.
It sounds like there is peace in the home until you and your son lock horns. Can you back off and lay low? Make the rules and be consistent in how you deal with infractions. Don't talk a lot and yell -- he'll just tune you out.
What does his mother do to get along with him so well?
He has no computer access...that really hurts him because he's a WOW junkie. I took everything out of his room....bed included....and the door too. He just doesn't care and that's why I'm at my wit's end. I appreciate the fact that YOU respond when your parents implement discipline. Most kids will. I really think that the friends he's chosen have influenced his attitude toward his family.....and once he leaves my front door, I can't do anything about who he hangs out with.
His mother is done dealing with him....first it was her that he had such a rough time with....then she discovered it absolutely useless to try anything with him, so she's given up. she ignores him and deals with him as necessary to function in the house.....as long as she doesn't say no to anything, all is well. but surely as soon as the answer is no...all hell will break loose. I think his temper is inherited from her side of the family...seriously, all of her brothers have a HUGELY bad temper. Her's isn't too bad.....I've handled it for 20 years already...
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