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I was in the mall the other day and saw a mother spanking her daughter in public and i wonder is there no other way to discipline a child (im not saying anything against parents who spank its a real question) my mom says if you dont spank your kids they will be ill mannered and disrespectful. She got upset when i said id rather not have any kids if the only way to get them to behave is to use physical punishment. So heres my question how many of you parents spank? and if so why? Also how many parents dont spank? if you dont spank why? Also i read several parenting books that say that spanking does nothing to help a child learn ong term they just learn to be smarter at not getting caught is this true? Im asking bc although i have a bs in psych and want to pursue a masters in child psychology but nothing compares to having kids of your own since i dont have any unless cabbage patch kids count lol i want parental responses.
i remeber having welts for days sometimes ...another thought/question do u feel uncomfprtable seeing kids get spanked like when u r in a store?
I do, but then I don't always know what led up to that situation....so, for some people, it might be justified. I also see a difference between leaving welts and a quick swat on the bum for emphasis.
I do get uncomfortable when I see parents use a spanking in a situation that should never have come about in the first place....where the parent really is to blame, which happens more than most parents probably realize. They tend to set up the situation, having higher expectations of their child's coping abilities than they should in different situations...then they get angry with the child when the child has a melt down. Parents can do much to avoid these types of situations in the first place if they were more aware of basic child development, and didn't put their own wants ahead of their child's needs. This isn't necessarily done maliciously, although some parents probably don't really care if they do it or not, but just from not knowing better.
I remember, years ago, I was in a store and there was this dad with two toddlers (barely) and one was sitting in the front of the cart just crying. The dad was visibly angry and hit the child and told him to stop crying. I thought that was the stupidest thing I had ever seen. The kid is crying (don't know why) and then gets swatted to make him stop crying? Children cry, alot of the time, because that is how they show their emotions. They don't have the words yet to explain what is going on. So to inflict more pain in the hopes that he will be quiet? That was just crazy.
So, yes, I feel uncomfortable seeing a child getting spanked in a store. I have left a store with my child because she was acting out. She knew she was in trouble and apologized the entire way home. When we got home, she got sent to her room with privileges taken away.
quote :and didn't put their own wants ahead of their child's needs
I dont understand why ppl have kids if they want to be selfish and just think of themselves...example i know im wayyy too selfish to have kids and im in my mid 20s lol so do i have any children no bc i know i would end u being a selfish crappy parent at this point. Sometimes i really wonder do ppl think b4 they do things especially BIG things like having babies and getting married
just read in the dating, sex and pregnacy boards here, many younger how no idea how to properly use protection not to have children, others just don't want to use protection. And for some reason they appear to have no idea what having children is going to be like.
So no, the largest majority most likely put more thought into buying a new pair of shoes than to have sex without protection
Fr_Chuck its just sad my old college roomie was 21 and said she couldnt use bc because it cost too much money and when i told her she could get it free at our schools health clinic she seemed shocked now these are girls in college who in the 21st century doesnt know you can get bc and condoms free at the local health clinic ???? I use bc i know you have to take it everyday at the same time and it is highly recommended that you use a back up form of bc(like a condom). I have known this since b4 i was sexually active and i lived in a very strict religious household. Have they stopped teaching sex ed since i left highschool in 2000 lol
Fr_Chuck its just sad my old college roomie was 21 and said she couldnt use bc because it cost too much money and when i told her she could get it free at our schools health clinic she seemed shocked now these are girls in college who in the 21st century doesnt know you can get bc and condoms free at the local health clinic ???? I use bc i know you have to take it everyday at the same time and it is highly recommended that you use a back up form of bc(like a condom). I have known this since b4 i was sexually active and i lived in a very strict religious household. Have they stopped teaching sex ed since i left highschool in 2000 lol
No, they still teach it.....they teach it even younger in many schools.
We even talk about it at my school in fifth grade "growth and development". But, as with many things in life, some choose not to listen, don't think it will happen to them, listen to their friends about preventing it instead of someone more knowledgable...ie., can't happen the first time, won't happen if you stand up, etc., get swayed by their boyfriend or girlfriend to not use it for various reasons, are "in love" and think they won't mind if they become pregnant (until they get a scare of it actually happening), or truly do want to have a baby at a young age.
Some schools are better than others with what they teach....some offer the very basics, leaving many to not have a real understanding of how their body works inregard to reproduction.
That is why i am so glad I at a young age loved 2 read whenever i had questions and was too embarrassed or afraid to ask my mom ( i didnt want to hear her say "why do you wanna know about bc you havin sex) id check a book out about it
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