My son & I don't Get along =(

Yep, you are his parent, not his best friend, and that is what you are suppose to be now, when he is 25, you can be best buddies, now be the parent and say no.

Next he can't just leave you to live with his father, assumign you have a court order for custody, the father would have to file in court for a change of custody.

Also what about child support, the dad should be helping to buy things, But in the end, he can live without a play staton 3, some kids don't have any at all, So time to stop letting him "suck the blood" and time to be the parent who stays on top of him, who checks his my space page every day, who checks his interent usage, who checks his cell phone usage, and so on.

Don't worry about the names he calls you. Remember the whole sticks and stones thing.

If I were in that position, I'd just tell him flat out that you can't afford it. He needs to be happy with what he already has. I know he won't be happy with that, but it sure would be better than being grounded from all that he does have if he doesn't get off your case about it.

You know why you make your decisions, and he isn't the parent. Don't let him guilt you into anything.

If he wants it so badly, he should get a job of some kind to help pay for it. Perhaps that since of responsibility is what he needs to develop.

I knew one parent who didn't like her son's attitude, so she took back or took away all of the things she had gotten for him until he showed a little more respect for her. She said it worked... Along with the quote from her son, "If Momma isn't happy, isn't Nobody Happy!"
He got the point.

Um...hello?

Why doesn't he get a job and pay for a PS3 himself?

He's 16--he can get a job. Maybe when he learns that money = work, he'll be less likely to want to just spend it all the time.

Plus--it'll teach him some responsibility, and maybe he'll have a little more respect for you.

And yeah--get on top of that child support crap. His dad doesn't deserve to get out of paying for his share. Maybe mention THAT to your son--that if his dad actually gave a damn about him, he'd be sending money to help with the expenses, and then MAYBE you'd be able to afford the PS3.

And--I like the idea about taking his current toys away. He has more than I do, and I'm 33 with no kids! My goodness, your son sounds pretty spoiled to me!

I am a teenager as well and my opinion is that for one stop giving him anything he wants my guess is that it has almost become expected of you to just give in and buy it. And when he is really giving you a hard time I would just take it all away but remember you do have to be smarter than a teenager don't put it where he can just go get it right when you go to sleep. And about the dad thing maybe tell him how if he was with him he wouldn't have anything like he does now so he should be happy

I'm 18 and I just moved out of my mom's house, but I did it because it was time. I am about to ship into the navy. My mom is single, my dad is very much like your son's father. And my little sister who is 14 has threatened my mom with the same stuff. "well, ill just move in with dad." it hurts, I know. I've had to comfort my mom, and it sucks. I have to admit, I did call her the b word when I was I don't know 14? And she heard me and slaped the hell out of me. That was the last day I said that. My mom got so fed up with it that she told my sister "ok. You can move in with your dad. Ill help you pack." she went into her room, put her clothes in trash bags and her stuffed animals in another and told her that nothing else was leaving the house and that dad if dad agreed with her moving, he would buy her furniture. My sister protested. I know, from being her sister, and my mom knows that she didn't want to move out, the only reason why she threatened was to hurt our mom and to get what she wanted. She was also screaming deal with me, tell me what to do, but she didn't know she was saying it. My mom took my sister to my dad's house. She sleeps on a matteress in his office. And she is miserable, and we all know it. She knows it, but she is learning something really important, I'm not exactly sure what it is, because I'm not her. It hurt my mom to do it, but she did because she loves my sister. My mom feels like she lost both of her girls, even though she didn't lose me, I'm right here. My sister is tough, and she sounds exactly like your son. Little hints will not work with them. Sit him down. Tell him to not talk. And tell him in the most harsh and bluntest terms how you feel about his behavior, every so often do tell him that you love him, if he talks, tell him to shut up. And keep going. Compare his life style to the less fortunant. Tell him the situation you are in, and that he is in it as well. You may both cry. But nobody will benifit unless you do this. He will hate you for this, but he will get over it. And tell him he better start working. It will probably have more effect if you bag up all of his toys and put them away somewhere where he won't find it. And say that you will give it all back to him one piece, and wire at a time as he shows you respect and responsability. And if he keeps saying that he really wants to move out, tell him exactly what kind of person his dad is and what will happen to him and that you will gladly bag his stuff and drop him off yourself.

And my sister is playing with the idea of asking my mom to move back in. I think she will before I leave.

I always used to get into fights with my mum when I was 15 hormones raging now I am 17 almost 18 I get along with my mum perfectly never argue and haven't since I turned 16 I guess its just the stress of skl etc and what not but if my mum butted in when I was playing Video Games I would be in a rage lol but that's how I was!

I think that's way over the top!

Love hurts both, the one getting it and the one receiving it, esspecially in the parent child relationship. I may not be older but I have already seen the results of this situation in many of my high school peers and older adults. I do agree, it is over the top, but I've seen it before. I am thankful that I wasn't that way with my mom. But in the end I'm not telling this mom what to do. I am suggestining what my mom did. In the end it will be her decision.