i just turned 17 and i am havin a kid but i jus fount out that another girl is pregnant to by me. what do i do i cant raise two kids but i dont like the second gilr who got pregnant... i just need some answer i cant pay child support my first kid has downsymdrem and idk what to do please help and give me some kind of answer!!! but how the other got pregnant was when me and girl friend was fighting bad she came over and it was caught in the moment thing. (both girls are also 17)

N0help4u

You are going to have to find a few jobs and pay. and learn a lesson to not have any more babies until you find the girl you want to be with for good.

DoulaLC

Yep.......as was said, you can't avoid stepping up and taking responsibility for your actions. If there is any question as to who the father is, you can always have a paternity test done after baby is born. It's a rough situation to be sure at such as young age...unfortunately some lessons are only learned the hard way and they force you to grow up fast.

Sounds harsh, but if you are going to play, you better be willing to pay. You may find great joy in being around your kids, even if you don't care for the mother of one of them. Think about what you can teach them and what sort of role model you can be as they get older. When so many young men bail out on their kids, now is your chance to do the right thing, even when it means having to make some sacrifices yourself....that is what being a real man is all about. Help out where you are able to....since you are likely still in school, jobs right now won't pay a great deal, and that is taken into account to determine what you are to pay. I wish you well.....and I hope this will cause you to stop and think in your future relationships.

ScottGem

I have said many times that no one should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are emotionally and financially ready to have a child. You are a poster boy for that statement. Because you were more interested in your own pleasure then being responsible you are now stuck.

If both mothers go after you for child support, you WILL have to pay. You don't have a choice. If you aren't earning enough, the support may be defferred but eventually you will have to pay.

poppyla0011

You don't mention the age of the girls. If they were under legal age ( depending on State Law) you are in deep trouble if you come forward.
The girl may name you as Father because she doesn't want to anger the real Father. You are the nice guy who wants to pay child support.

Paternity tests are in order. Even if you had intercourse, you still may not be the Father of the child.
If you are the Father of the child, with a Paternity Test, you must arrange for all payments to go thru " Friend of the Court" - open an account for each child. This is so you are not blamed as a " Dead Beat Dad" and throun into jail.

Paternity Tests are sometimes arranged by the local Probate Court or Social Services Agency, like Children's Aid Society or Catholic Social Services.

Sonador101

talk to the second girl who is pregnant and suggest adoption, explain to her that yoiu want the child with al loving mother and father who can take good care of the child. untill then like the others said step up and take resonsibliliity. get some jobs and pay up. but i still think you should put the children up for adoption.
ps (this is just my oppinion, and i do not wish to seem insenitive this is merely something i believe)

Rockstar714

Obviously you liked the girl at the time, so now you have to deal with what happened. Regardless of if it was a spur of the moment thing or not, ultimately YOU COULD HAVE SAID NO. But you didn't, and now you've got another kid.

I think you should get the paternity tests done, and go from there.

But next time, if you don't want any more kids, please keep it in your pants.