I want to know why some men, that pay child support, just complain that it is way too much. We are talking about men who pay, oh around 200$ a month for a child, when the mother pays a lot more then that raising that child.
Why do men, yes I'm sure there are some woman, complain over such a small amount of money when it comes to a child?
I must stand and applaud the fathers who remain a great father through their child's life, and never complain about money.

svatnsdal

This is really making feel very happy and grateful to be who I am!
I really wish birth control was out and available a lot more, I also really wish parents would be a lot more open to their kids and discuss the outcome. Sex education is a class that should be taught in every school to every child! Make teenagers live like parents for a week and then see how they think!

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

You are so right svatnsdal about parents being open with their kids.

But I don't think that the lack of sex education has an effect on so many pregnancies. Even if it were taught in every single school I still don't think that is a huge factor.

I'll tell you what I do believe to be partially blamed for and that is the media. I don't think any movie these days can't finish unless there is some steamy part added. There are a few that don't have them, but most do.

Parents do have a lot to do with their child's upbringing. Thank fully my parents were open enough to discuss it with me. As a teen, I looked at intercourse as 'Well if I do it, I will get pregnant and be miserable.' Not all pregnancies end in horror but as a teen they just might.

Greg Quinn

If a woman wants and is granted custody of a child and limit shared access to the the father she should get nothing(Except for special circumstances). If there is split access to the child or children, the man shouldn't have to pay a cent. In these cases I would complain too
If it is a dad who doesn't want to take responsibility for his own child and raise the child, he would be a waste of skin... And complaining about money is the least of his low life problems.

Depressed in MO

[quote=Greg Quinn]If a woman wants and is granted custody of a child and limit shared access to the the father she should get nothing(Except for special circumstances). If there is split access to the child or children, the man shouldn't have to pay a cent. In these cases I would complain too

Sorry, but IMHO, only a man would say this. Sorry, what I mean is the "non-custodial" parent.

Please don't be offended as I mean nothing personally to you if I HAVE offended you, it's just that BOTH parties should be responsible for the financial upbringing of their children, no matter who has them at ANY time.

COOKIE MONSTER

A CHILD NEEDS EDUCATIONAL TOYS TO HELP IT GROW AND LEARN AND TO USE ITS BRAIN
i get 360euro a week 155 goes to rent leaving 205euro left about 90euro goes on food leaving 115euro,12 goes on coal,6 on taxi home with shopping,leaving 97 which goes on the electric bill,clothes and toys for both my sons they don't get toys every week[because i have bills] and i do have family that buy them toys and most of the toys are from bloody xmas my son has been taught to look after his things because mammy cant afford to buy him new 1s every week just because i have a house full of toys does not mean i bought them all i did not say i bought them all if you read it and it does not meen they was all brand new either i buy most toys on ebay
my sons are both well fed and clothed and if they need something i go with out ive needed anew coat for 3 years and ive just saved up enough money to get the one i want i don't go round with designer gear and anew cell i got mine last year i saved up for that aswel

and anyway i don't get child support off either of my sons dads i don't want it either i get by just fine yeah sometimes its a struggle but i don't complain i get on with it if i need anew top or pair of pants i go oxfam or see if theirs anything cheap on sale i don't buy brand gear its not my style and it costs way to much i don't go out drinking and partying because i don't have the money to plus i don't drink i don't do drugs either my mum gave me my pc because she got anew 1 most of what i have is second hand so don't be giving me all that crap i budget my cash i have to i wont end up like my mum with bills up to her eyeballs and if you don't believe me go and ask teatea on this site she's my auntie

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

That's very true Deppressed in MO.

Why should a man get away with every seed he plants? If that were the case, then EVERY man would go around, getting women pregnant, and then going on as they please.

Depressed in MO

Honey, you don't have to explain yourself to anyone on this site, it's no one's business. All that matters is what you think and feel about YOU.
Good luck to you and your family. You sound like a good mom to me.

Depressed in MO

I agree with you too. I think it goes deeper than the parents talking to their kids about sex. I believe that a lot of parents DO talk to their kids about sex.
I remember being scared to tell my mom when I wanted to go on birth control as I felt she would be ashamed of me or I would be in trouble because she would then think or know that I was having sex.-even though she always assured me that I could come to her with anything.I think, in addition, or even before-the SEX talk-parents need to open up to their children to let them know that they can come to them ANYTIME they have a problem or question on ANY subject. People shouldn't be so quick to judge-It's not just about the lack in talking about sex education when it comes to blaming parents. It should be about their overal relationship as a whole with the child. Again, just my opinion.

COOKIE MONSTER

well it pissed me off to be honest with you and when something pisses me off i have to say what i think or explain myself or b**ch at that person and i have done all 3 and feel better for it

nikosmom

Well I personally wasn't calling you out. I mentioned the thing about toys because the msgs that I referenced (Depressed & 1UNV) were talking about furnishing children's NEEDS. I think all the custodial parents are entitled to support from the other parent. I'm gonna keep going to court until I get a judgement. My son needs that money and he shouldn't be punished just because his father is angry at me about ending our relationship.

I agree with Depressed that you don't have to reveal to anyone on this site how much money you receive. Can I ask why you don't seek support from your kids' fathers?? They deserve that help and possibly with that help you won't be in such a predicament. This is what the original question was: why is it that a lot of fathers think they shouldn't have to pay child support.