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    colin3daniel8 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 24, 2011, 03:56 AM
    My boyfriend of 11 years, couldn't answer me when I asked him if he still loved me.
    He just paused and said all I do is fight with him with stupid comments and more or less said I was making him unhappy. We then tried talking and long story short, he falls asleep? What does that say? I take it he not only does NOT love me but he does not even care anymore.
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    Oct 24, 2011, 04:32 AM
    Do you often ask him if he loves you? Is this something you have done for a long time? I would find that very needy and wearing if my husband did that. Or has his behaviour suddenly changed to make you question him? If he has suddenly withdrawn his affection that would obviously have you wondering why.

    So what is really going on here - your insecurities are driving him nuts, or his lack of input into the relationship is making you question everything? Can you tell us more about how you got to this point please?
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    Oct 25, 2011, 02:43 PM
    If you have determined that then what is the problem? Break up, move on, and find someone who is going to show you at least a little respect.
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    Oct 25, 2011, 04:44 PM
    I think you take it as he is tired of arguing about the same thing, over and over.
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    Oct 26, 2011, 06:06 PM
    It takes 2. After 11 years, I would hope that you can talk. Geez.

    Make a plan on how best to communicate. That you both agree on. Not at the night, all boiled up.

    Girls can nag, guys can bail. That's easy.

    Fix that. Communicate with honesty. Maybe you never have.

    What's the next 11 going to be like?

    Are you both in for that?
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