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    May 19, 2009, 07:38 PM
    I'm a wee bit lost
    I've been dating my girlfriend for over 2 years. She is the first person I have ever loved. Truly loved and still love more than anything. I've dated a lot of people before but she's different. I actually want to be with her and can't imagine losing her.
    The past few months we've kind of grown apart sexually. She loves me more than anything and I love her more than anything but neither of us wants sex. I find her extremely beautiful, she has an amazing body, but I still don't want sex. The same goes for her she feels the same way. She finds herself not sexually attracted to me but loves me and doesn't want to lose me.
    How do I, how do we fix this?
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    May 19, 2009, 07:50 PM

    If you are over 18, I think this question belongs here: Adult Sexuality - Ask Me Help Desk

    Sex should not be rushed. You should only have sex when you feel that you are both ready for it. Instead of worrying about your sex life, why don't you two just enjoy the fact that you found each other and enjoy the time that you spend together.
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    May 19, 2009, 08:41 PM

    I wish I think they have had sex, they are losing interest in one another sexually.

    Any who, Make it fresh. If you find another girl sexually attracting, find out why, no do not talk to her, but think about why you feel that towards her. What about her is it that gets you going.

    If it's a forbidon fruit thing, ask your women to switch it up, pay for her to get her hair done and change her look up, then roleplay the fantacy.

    Same for her, get her to write down the reasons she finds others attractive sexually and her inner most sexual fantacies.

    Toss in new ideas, like tie her to the bed, then (if it's what she likes) use some of her "toys" on her, blind fold her, get some different tasty surprises. Like chocolate syrup, orenge creamsicle pudding, whip cream, and other fun stuff. Draw a picture on her tummy tease her while you do it, then use your imagination.

    Heck, blind fold her and be a little rough, if she likes that, good to have a "safty word". Or just tease her in the morning before you leave for the day, then some time in the middle call her and leave her hot and bothered and tell her what you'll do to her when you get back home.

    Have you two explored one another's sexual fantacies, All of them? Don't be shy, if you're interested ask, if she don't like it she can say "no." Just let her know that you'll be OK with that.

    I appologise if that's a little grafic or not your thing, but please remember that's what I would do, only you know what you would do, so use your imagination and see what you come up with.

    Peace and kindness be with you.

    P.S. If you watch porn once a week or more, then STOP, it's messing with your ability to find a realistic relation ship kind of gal sexually attractive.

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