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Hi my name is Robert and I just found out that I was a father. I have wanted to be a father my entire life. Now my son, Damian, is 22 Months and I want to be the best Daddy in the world. I just have a few questions to ask and I would like to know if I could have some feedback answers...
1. How can I introduce myself as his father after almost 2 years?
2. How do I help him in his growing years?
3. Am I wrong for showing him to much affection? ( ex. picking him him up, holdin him, giving him what he want )
4.not really a question, If any fathers are reading this please give me some tips and pointers.
Hopefully, Ill get a few comments and feedbacks. Thank you very much for your time.
450donn disagrees: true that morals can be tought but rarely are by parents. When he was trying to point out was the moral aspect of life and how important it is.
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But I strongly disagree with you that parents rarely teach moral values. In faact its just the opposite, Children learn their morals primarily from their parents. Even the act of enrolling a child in Sunday School is an act of teaching moral behavior.
I am a strong proponent of teaching morality, but I took exception to the advice posted here for two reasons. First, because there are many ways of teaching morality, Sunday School is only one possibility. And its clear that he doesn't live with the mother, so the mother also has a say in such thing. Second the OP did not ask or mention anything about teaching morality. He was asking more about parenting.
Therefore, I felt the need to counter smearcase's comments. Since his comments were opinion it was inappropriate to use a negative comment so I didn't. It was also inappropriate for you to use a negative comment against my post for the same reasons.
450donn disagrees: true that morals can be tought but rarely are by parents. When he was trying to point out was the moral aspect of life and how important it is.
First, may I call your attention to the guidelines for using the comments feature found here:
But I strongly disagree with you that parents rarely teach moral values. In faact its just the opposite, Children learn their morals primarily from their parents. Even the act of enrolling a child in Sunday School is an act of teaching moral behavior.
I am a strong proponent of teaching morality, but I took exception to the advice posted here for two reasons. First, because there are many ways of teaching morality, Sunday School is only one possibility. And its clear that he doesn't live with the mother, so the mother also has a say in such thing. Second the OP did not ask or mention anything about teaching morality. He was asking more about parenting.
Therefore, I felt the need to counter smearcase's comments. Since his comments were opinion it was inappropriate to use a negative comment so I didn't. It was also inappropriate for you to use a negative comment against my post for the same reasons.
----------------- I would hope someone gives you a balancer. I agree with everything you said here.
That is why I worded it right and wrong. Is not that morality?
What decent parent does not teach their child / children right and wrong?
But throw religion in there and watch things combust.
Regardless children learn by the example you set. Walk the talk.
That is why I worded it right and wrong. Is not that morality?
What decent parent does not teach their child / children right and wrong?
But throw religion in there and watch things combust.
Regardless children learn by the example you set. Walk the talk.
1. How can I introduce myself as his father after almost 2 years?
Slowly and with moms help.
2. How do I help him in his growing years?
By being there and giving him plenty of love support, and guidance, and discipline, not corporally either.
3. Am I wrong for showing him to much affection? ( ex. picking him him up, holdin him, giving him what he want )
As he gets older there will be time to teach him right and wrong on a level he can understand. No way, can you help but pick the little feller up, the more affection the better.
4.not really a question, If any fathers are reading this please give me some tips and pointers.
Be consistent with your time, and control your anger, and above all pay attention closely, and never be to busy for any of his needs. Never under estimate what they can understand, and never assume they should know better.
Watch what you say, and do around them, as they love to imitate what they see, and hear.
Curious as to the exact nature of this family dynamic though, as it seems you don't live with your son.