the father of my son always has something negative to say about me and my parenting. im basically a single mother who lives with my childs father and i work with my 1 yr old. i dont feel that i should have to hold him while i do everything but if his father hears him cry he flips out on me saying im a bad mother that i should have never had our son.because of his father i end up holding my child a lot. if i have to shower or do anything for me i ask his dad to watch him real quick and he always says wait until he goes to sleep, but if he wakes up he'll barge in on me in the shower yellin to get out cause our son woke up from his nap. he always threatens to call cps on me. i had to quit my second job because he wouldnt watch our child. he also says he will let our child know when he's older what a bad mother i was. i love my son and it kills me when he says these things to me. is this mental abuse?

bushg

1-800-799-7233 call this domestic hotline and talk to some of these people. Hopefuly they can get you into contact with people in your area. Throwing your things and breaking them and threatening you and your family is against the law. He can go to jail for it. He is a little punk and needs to be dealt with.

YOu don't need him esp. if you are taking care of your child and doing the providing. What in the hell is he good for. The chance are great that your son will grow up to be a nervous mess, a woman abuser or someone who lets himself be abused if you don't do something and get him out of this situation. Believe me honey he is being effected by all of this, even if you quietly take the abuse,he can sense that something is wrong. YOu are not doing him any favors by sticking around and your not doing his dad any either, your just showing the dad that he gets what he wants by being abusive. Tak a stand for yourself and your baby and let this group help you.

brittanyb24

i dont want anyone to help because they will all know what really goes on at our home. i guess i have to really sit and think about what im gonna do thanks for your help. i have to go im at work . if i have anymore questions i'll look for you for answeres. thanks.
brittany

startover22

Brittany, I would advise you to write out a plan...call the number bushg gave you up there and start your course of action. This is unsafe for you and the boy. Telling the people who love you, as for that, well, you are gonna need to at some point, whether it is when you leave this man, or when he decides to throw you instead of something against the wall. Seriously, you need to get a plan together and not be afraid to go forth! We are here to support you, no matter how rocky the road gets! You have the strength, you have the know how, actually doing it will be the hardest! Hugs and lots a love to you and your boy!!

jjb4060

First of all, you need to be your own person. Nobody should ever have control over you or the way you live. You sound like a very good mother. The only thing i think you are doing wrong is letting this go on especially in front of your child. If it comes down to you filing custody and getting a restraining order on him, that's what you need to do. You say you dont want your things being broken and your family threatened, but you didnt think that somewhere along the road, sooner or later, your son will be DEEPLY affected by this. And dont worry about him telling your son that u were a bad mom...be the best mom you can be , always, and your son will know who was right and who was wrong. Get out of this situation for the sake of your child as well as yourself. i wish you the best of luck.

Jesushelper76

It is mental, emotional abuse.

Now it is up to you to get away from it.