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I hate my son
Asked Mar 24, 2009, 01:10 AM
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30 Answers I do not know what to do I have a 12 year old son and he is making my life a living hell. He smashes up my house, he has smashed windows, doors and ripped his bedroom curtains down, he has stolen money out of my purse, he lies, puts his hands around my younger 2 children's throats and he even held my youngest child's head under water in the paddling pool last summer. Social services have been involved with him before and I have tried to get them involved again but they just said we have done everything there is no more we can do for you. He has even twice at school told the teachers that his dad has smashed his head into a wardrobe door and thrown things at him, these are totally untrue but resulted in us getting the police and social services at the door and because of this both me and my husband will have this show up every time we have a crb check done. I can't take any more I have tried to overdose myself before to get away from this, I am on anti depressants and have counselling I just do not know what else to do! |
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| Hi, rlc1976! Are you in the United States? Thanks! | ||||
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| No I am in the uk | ||||
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| Take a deep breath. Do you not think your son needs you? Trying to kill yourself is not going to solve anything. Your son obviously has some emotional issues. Have you tried talking to him? Asking him what is bothering him. Obviously something is. He needs to go see a therapist who specializes in pre-teen anger problems. You need to be objective. I know its hard. Take yourself emotionally out of it and start looking at it like this child is crying out for your help with everything he has got. I think saying that you hate your son is a bit harsh. Love your son enough to really try helping him. There are also special boarding schools like Elan School in Poland Springs, ME USA that specializes in this sort of thing. | ||||
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| Does he know ... Or heard you say you "hate him"? Perhaps what you mean is you "hate his behavior" but not your son himself?  I'm sorry that I can't help you much as I am in the US, but I wonder what causes this. Has he been diagnosed with anything such as ADHD, Bipolar disorder, Manic depression, or Autism? If not, do you think he could benefit from seeing a doctor who might explore those possiblities? If nothing medical, what do you believe his behavior is steming from? Abuse? Teasing at school? Perhaps knowing the reason behind his behavior will help. | ||||
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| Hello mom: The problem is with YOU. Any parent who would utter the words you did, WOULD smash their kids head into walls, and lie through their teeth about it. excon | ||||
| AlpineAnnie (Mar 24, 2009 07:12 PM):
Very Non-Helpful answer. Can't you understand she is just terribly upset?! Source: |
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| You want to keep your totally useless opinions to yourself and take a good long look at your life it sounds to me like you have got issues guilt maybe treated your own kids like that have you? You have not got a clue about the situation so I suggest you take a run and jump  | ||||
| JoeCanada76 (Mar 24, 2009 05:58 PM):
Your attitude shows a lot. Source: Alty (Mar 28, 2009 07:48 PM):
It's up to you to change, your child is 12, so obviously the problem is with you. Excons response was accurate. Source: |
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| This topic is very dear to my heart, as I have a son who is bipolar and we have had many, many issues with him. Steph1216 gave you some very wise advice. Some type of counseling is probably going to be the best place to start. Believe me, I know the feelings that you are going through. My son has stole from us, hurt his little sister, broken things etc. You blame yourself as the parent and it took me a very long time to realize that it wasn't me. I still occasionally blame myself but you have to remember, if you know deep down that you have done nothing to cause this child emotional distress, then its beyond you trying to fix by yourself. Are you able to get him some counseling? I think you should attend it with him as well. | ||||
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| I agree with some of these answers, but you need to talk to your son and ask him if anything is wrong, there might be something that is making him a little terror, there is also anger management, and if you really hate your son maybe out him up for adoption | ||||
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| Maybe your hate is rubbing off on him...maybe you hate yourself and he's picking up on that..my mom was suicidal and seeing her that way made me one bad kid..and made me suicidal also at one point..maybe you both need psychiatric help | ||||
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