Was with this girl for some time and we really started to get serious. Talking about marriage and life further down the road. Me always persistent on no sex before marriage, decided to let loose a little. We were getting married in the fall any way? We had talked about kids for some time both agreed on having some and loved the idea of being together. We were excited when we found out the good news. Told everyone right away. Set up a baby shower the whole nine yards. Even picked out names. Everything seemed perfect. Then at the end of June she started staying late at work. She told me she stayed to eat with friends, or she was giving friends rides home. I worked third shift so I always had dinner for her when she got home, I did all the cooking. Though it didn't bother me she stayed out with friends was curious to why she didn't call or answer her phone when I called. I confronted her about this issue several times, she would get defensive and say I was being to CLINGY. Decided to trust her after all I was marring the girl. Then it started getting worse I would make plans to go out to dinner or even go to the zoo and she would blow me off or pick up overtime. Thought maybe it was my job so I switched a great paying job for a moderate pay to get on first shift. She was excited. Then one day I asked again why are you always working and not wanting to spend time with me. Her answer was do we have to do this right now? Instead of getting upset and causing a raging argument I told her when she was ready we would talk. We never did tell why she was acting funny. Then one day no reason why just started to stay with friends. Try to talk to her and she would blow up and get angry. Tried my best to work out whatever it was that could have been wrong, got nowhere. Then a week later I learned she had been staying with a guy from work who she mentioned once or twice before. He had a girlfriend and didn' t seem to pose a threat to me let alone my girlfriend was 5 months pregnant. His girlfriend committed suicide not long after my girlfriend moved in with him. Two months later they are still living together. I am trying to except her leaving but I can't except my baby growing up with two families. I am driving myself insane thinking of how things will be when she is born. She won't let my name be on the birth certificate, not going to let me have my child for the first three months at least, and is saying what our baby can and cannot have already. She is already using the baby as a weapon against me. I have been spending countless ours looking for information on how to get costudy of my daughter that way I can at least be part of her life. I want my ex to be apart of her life as much as possible but know as long as she has control over her I will be at the mercy of my ex. Everything I have read tells me I am screwed or that I will be in a expensive battle that won't end pretty. I don't want to be in a court custody battle throughout my child's life. She deservese a normal healthy life, what can I do. Please any advice will be good advice. If it doesn't help my case maybe it will help my emotional state. I am really losing it. Tired of pretending everything is okay when I am around my ex, friends and family. I need help. Any advice on how to deal with this will be helpful. Please help. Baby is due in November not much time left.

I'm so sorry your girlfriend did this to you. You should talk to a local attorney. Usually they will give you a free consultation to let you know if they can help you. I know you can file to get a blood test, I'm not sure what all you have to do. You should also talk to a counselor or religious leader while you are going through this difficult time. Look online for any parental rights advocacy groups. I will keep you in my prayers.

Take a deep breath and regroup. The laws in many states have been changing so much that a lot of dads can and do get custody. Make sure you are there when the baby is born. I hate to ask this but, being how you explained the case are you sure the baby is yours ? If not 100% have a dna test. Your attorney can have papers prepared now. Most attorneys will give you a free consult, just be prepared to answer a lot of questions and have dates handy. You have a say in the raising of your child, and believe me all the nights you've lost sleep and all the crys will be worth the effort in the end. I hope everything turns out OK. If you can't afford legal advise there should be an organization in our area to help. Talk with some one at the court house or look in the yellowpages.