Failed as a mother.

I just don't know where to start... I have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter and is getting very hard to raise her anymore. My mother in law lives with us and she makes it so difficult to raise my child. I know grandparents spoil, but this lady goes beyond to defy me and my way of raising my daughter. I have spoken to my husband on for many months now and all he tells me is that he's sick and tired of hearing me bi**h about the situation. I just don't know what to do anymore. I work full time so my mother in law looks after my daughter, obviously my daughter is close with her grandma because she spends the most time with her but to top it off my mother in law lets her get away with everything and anything. So here I am trying to reprimand my child and my daughter does the obvious and runs to grandma or grandma runs to her.

It has come to the point where my daughter doesn't even want to be with me anymore or spend any time because grandma lets her do everything. I cannot tell you how much it hurts me when my daughter chooses her grandma when she's hurt, sick or wants to play over me.

I keep praying that the situation would get better but it doesn't iit just gets worse. My husband doesn't even understand my pain. I feel like I have failed as a mother and that I'm losing my child to my mother in law. Sometimes I just want to leave because if I leave I know that my daughter would not miss me. I just don't know what to do.