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I am very worried about my daughter [she is 12]. She is TOTALLY changed in almost every way. Her clothes [all black] if she has her way, her appearance...her activities..EVERYTHING!!! She has a cousin who is more like a friend than anything...always has been. He is 14..and also acting VERY different..or for a better understanding to all the readers, " EMO". Im not totally sure what all that means completely...but all I know is that it isnt a "phase" anymore and Im really to the point that im actually scared. I have tried to talk to the boys mother [who I am very close too]. She doesnt seem to either think it is a big deal..or she just isnt able to do anything about it herself. I love her son and her very much..but I dont want my daughter to hang out with him anymore..or even associate with him at this point. Im not trying to blame him for all of this..but he is a big influence on her as she is about the only "friend" that he has. He isnt popular at school..unless being the "weird kid" is what he's opting for..and Im positive that this all started because of his relationship/friendship with my daughter. I dont like the clothes..the hair in the eyes..the FILTHY bedroom...the laziness, grades slipping...OH!!! lol..and the OBSESSION with Anime...it is beyond just a "phase" now...and I feel as if she is or has changed into a totally different person. Before this..it was all "girly" things..pretty clothes...nice hair etc..now its all "goth"..or "emo"....PLEASE HELP...any and all advice would be so helpful. Thank you...I would also like to add that yes, I have talked to my child..of course...set rules, offered bribes..begged, screamed, yelled..Ive done it all..she is completely changed...and it is scaring me alot.
there is no big problem with the emo scene.
alot of children change when they hit their teen years.
i am only 14 and i am in the 'emo scene'
there is nothing you should be worried about.
Im 14
and am no where emo
but at about 12 i was kinda like tht aswell
my mum never thougth anything of it though, maybe coa she didnt understand, or just wasnt worried
but me being a kidd myself i know that this usually isnt anything to worry about, in some cases yes.
emos are known for self harming but this doesnt mean ure daughter is!
i never did
And emos are picked on by absolutely everyone, so dont make her feel worse, listen to her.
but i still listen to metal n rock music, which in no way makes me feel depressed or anything like that, its just what i like.
and i wear alot of black, but not all black
basically what im trying to say is, she might grow out of it..just give her time and atm its nothing to worry about, you could try talking to her though, see whats actually going on inside her head, and i dotn thkink you should stop her from seeing her cousin, if theyre close friends then its not right, im really close with my brother, and my mum thinks hes a bad influence on me, which im no denying, bt i talk with him about things i cant talk about with my mum i can really trust him.
but i mean i was probably likr tht for about 7 months, and i never did anything wrong.
if and i mean [b]if[b] , not saying tht she will in any way, starts to self harm or is really sensitive, i think its time u talked severely and even get help becasue i dont think its right, noone knows whats going on in everybodies heads, and you dont know wht shes thinking. dont stop her listening to her music, its what she likes it helps bring out her personality, obviously ifthis is bad then think about talking and stuff, but my mum never stopped me and my brother lieks even heavier stuff and hes 18 but is fine. i hope any of that made sense, and please listen to me, just because im 14 doesnt mean i dont understand, if anything i understand more because im at that age and ive been through it.
ty and good luck....
I am very worried about my daughter [she is 12]. She is TOTALLY changed in almost every way. Her clothes [all black] if she has her way, her appearance...her activities..EVERYTHING!!! She has a cousin who is more like a friend than anything...always has been. He is 14..and also acting VERY different..or for a better understanding to all the readers, " EMO". Im not totally sure what all that means completely...but all I know is that it isnt a "phase" anymore and Im really to the point that im actually scared. I have tried to talk to the boys mother [who I am very close too]. She doesnt seem to either think it is a big deal..or she just isnt able to do anything about it herself. I love her son and her very much..but I dont want my daughter to hang out with him anymore..or even associate with him at this point. Im not trying to blame him for all of this..but he is a big influence on her as she is about the only "friend" that he has. He isnt popular at school..unless being the "weird kid" is what he's opting for..and Im positive that this all started because of his relationship/friendship with my daughter. I dont like the clothes..the hair in the eyes..the FILTHY bedroom...the laziness, grades slipping...OH!!! lol..and the OBSESSION with Anime...it is beyond just a "phase" now...and I feel as if she is or has changed into a totally different person. Before this..it was all "girly" things..pretty clothes...nice hair etc..now its all "goth"..or "emo"....PLEASE HELP...any and all advice would be so helpful. Thank you...I would also like to add that yes, I have talked to my child..of course...set rules, offered bribes..begged, screamed, yelled..Ive done it all..she is completely changed...and it is scaring me alot.
I know how EMO and GOTH kids are. EMO stands for emotional. If your daughter is just dressing the part and not actually doing the part, you have nothing to worry about. (cutting etc...) Your daughter is probably just trying to fit in. When she goes to a different school she'll probably change her look. Like I said, she's probab;y just trying to fit in.
It is just a phase she is going though but when attitude and behavior problems come then sit her down and talk to her and ask her what is up. But she is just being a kid, they change everyday. Trust me on this, I am a teen with attitude and behavior problem and sometimes I dress in all black and cut myself and have been label as "goth" and "emo". But days I can be happy or depressed or anger for no reason at all I don't know why I am like this but I am. You sound like a great mother because you care about your child and are willing to help her, my mom doesn't care about me at all.
what the hell are you talking about there is nothing wrong with being Emo lady you got problems, just leave her alone and if she wants to come talk to you she will, just let her be who she wants to be, do you see her telling you who you should be and want you shouldn't be, let her have her own life, i think she has enough problems in her life even you when your judging her by her acts or looks,you shouldn't be asking for advice your her mother want do you think you should do
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