Hi, my daughter recently came onto my husband. She asked him to have sex with her. Yes I was in the room and no she wasn't joking. I'm not sure how to handle the situation. Of course we told her no but she got really upset and hasn't talked to us in two days. I'm worried something is wrong with her. She's 14 and yes my husband is her real father. She has never been sexually abused and she down't have any mental problems. Is this just a phase she's going though? And does anyone have any advice on how to handle it?

Something is REALLY wrong here. I don't know what that is, but you need to get her to a psychiatrist as soon as you can. I have never known any child- at that age- to ask her own FATHER to have sex. That's not normal.

What has she been reading/watching/talking with her friends about? Is she deliberately trying to freak you out? It worked on me just reading your question.

I have never heard of any child go through a phase that would compel them to ask such an outrageous question.

How do you know for certain that she has never been molested?

The fact that she got angry because you said no,is mind boggling to me.

It suggests she seriously considered it as a reasonable request.

I think you need to seek professional help for her ASAP as this is not in any way normal adolescent behavior.

I would have assumed the child had a history of sexual abuse or that perhaps the father was not her real father. However, seeing as how you've answered that than I would really seek help for her. This is not normal.

I don't even have advice except immediate counseling.
It's not a phase and very disturbing.
I wonder if she understands the concept of sex.
Have you discussed the inapporiateness of the situation with her? Where the question came from?

This isn't normal and something is going on.

She needs help, right away.

The fact that she not only said this, but said it in front of you, that really worries me.

Is she doing this for shock value or is she serious?

Psychiatrist, counselling, whatever it takes, because this is a
serious warning sign.

Good luck.

I may be totally wrong but is she "advanced" sexually for a 14 year old?

Does she actually understand what she is asking?

Or do you think it may be more like she wants to be more intimate in the way of hugging?

If she does understand what she said fully then she definitely needs immediate counseling as others have suggested.

You might not feel like she has mental problems, but it could be another problem. I hardly think that this is a considered a "phase".

I suggest the same as the others. Get professional help and go from there. This is NOT normal behavior.

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Originally Posted by Dare2Dream

Hi, my daughter recently came onto my husband. She asked him to have sex with her. Yes I was in the room and no she wasn't joking. I'm not sure how to handle the situation. Of course we told her no but she got really upset and hasn't talked to us in two days. I'm worried something is wrong with her. She's 14 and yes my husband is her real father. She has never been sexually abused and she down't have any mental problems. Is this just a phase she's going though? And does anyone have any advice on how to handle it?

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Ok here's some questions I have if you don't mind answering it might give some more insight. You say he's her real father but has he always been in the picture? If so then how close are they? Is he an active parent? Or is their any emotional detachment between them? How exactly did she bring this up? I'm shocked that she'd think it was OK to suggest it joking or not in front of you which is why I was thinking maybe for some reason she's mad or jealous of you. Whatever the reason these are just questions but regardless get her to counseling right away! I know some disagree but in this case I'd definitely be checking things out like txt messages, emails, myspace, and snooping! I know some may disagree but this child may be in danger of a predator of some sort. Good luck and keep us updated.