I don't really know where to start so you understand and it does not take a book to write it.
Five years ago, I married the man that had taken me to my junior prom 30 years prior. We had not seen each other for 28 years. Talk about really true love.
I had two grown sons that are both successful and happy and love him very much. He has three girls. The oldest is adopted from his first wife and is 30 with at this point only 3 kids without being married. The next is with the first wife and is early twenties. The youngest is with his second wife and is 12 and looks just like him. At the point of the marriage, they all loved me. I was warned that the older two were not to be believed and like their mother. I still loved them. Even when they asked for money all the time, I still loved them and hoped and prayed that one day they would stop the drugs and the many men they were sleeping around with and become what I knew they could.
The younger one, took longer. She Lives with her mom and is protective of her evil mom (won't go into the things that woman has put me through) but I kept at her until last mothers day, I got the most heart warming card from her at the age of 16. She let me know she loves me too. I cried and cried.
Back to the older ones. One year ago, the middle one got into a legal matter that was very serious and we made a decision that we could not afford and probably should not anyway pay the $8,000 down that she was demanding we give her right now. Also, my husband had just had heart surgery and was supposed to be kept quiet and low stress. Well, let's just say that she threw a fit like a spoiled little brat and said that her fathers health did not matter that her not going to prison was what mattered then she hung up on me and we have not heard from her for 14 months now.
The oldest daughter actually came for the trial 1 year ago and stayed with grandma. Well, I guess she did not think that grandma would tell us all the terrible things she had to say about me even though the car she was driving was paid for by me. But, good old grandma was very upset and told all. Well, my husband insisted that both girls apologize to me or not bother to come visit. They chose the later.
I have know idea where they are getting all the money that we were handing out to them but it sure is nice that we don't have to do it anymore.
Between us, I don't miss them. I was always worried about what they were stealing while in the house. But, my husband is broken hearted and he is my number one.
By the way, the oldest now has five kids and still no husband. Apparently, the more you have the more free money they give you.
The question is, do we just get them out of the wills completely remove pictures.
That's drastic.
Do we slowly remove photos and make some changes to the wills.
Do I try to contact them and tell them they are killing my husband. Because if they are back in our lives he will have more stress and I can't lose the love of my life over the stress of this. I just can't. We just found each other. He's my other half.
Did I tell you that he tried to ask me to marry him in H.S. and he had left for the Navy but I was not home when he called.
So, I got my big girl panties on and I'm ready for help.