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    compsavvyimnot Posts: 58, Reputation: 7
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    #21

    Jan 11, 2009, 12:55 AM

    Oh God!! The story of Lattie... I'm sitting here crying. How? Why? As a mother of 4 beautiful babies, I can't imagine... I just don't understand...
    Why did they get life? Eating up thousands of dollars of tax payers $. Free 3 meals a day and shelter, no responsibilities to worry of. I'd like to suggest something else for these two... but that would call for a whole different thread.
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    #22

    Jan 11, 2009, 08:59 AM

    Compsavvy,
    I so agree with you. I am very PRO Death Penalty in cases of torture OR children and this was both and it went on and on.
    YES, and the death penalty would be too easy. I don't care if I get blasted by liberals. I am going to be true to these angels.
    Do you ever watch the NANCY GRACE SHOW? She really despises the animals who do these things.
    You sound like a beautiful mom. If only Lattie had just one person in his life like you this never could have happened.
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    Jan 11, 2009, 09:02 AM
    Just to let you know, I wasn't downing anyone who is a liberal, I'm just saying this is how I feel with no regrets. It has nothing to do with politics but everything to do with this little boy and the monsters who tortured him. So I say they should have been fried.
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    Jan 11, 2009, 10:15 AM

    Here's another one for you --

    Police Pride & Purpose

    And a follow-up article --

    http://www.nospank.net/n-d27.htm
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    #25

    Jan 11, 2009, 09:24 PM
    I accidentally unsubscribed to this question. So please know I am still communicating
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    #26

    Jan 11, 2009, 09:26 PM
    Wondergirl can you please send me that story of lattie again. I just accidentally lost all my information from that reply and earlier.
    I wanted to share that story with my daughter.
    Thanks much
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    #27

    Jan 11, 2009, 09:27 PM

    Maybe he is trying to hide something!!
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    Jan 11, 2009, 09:39 PM
    My suggestion would be to "love him from a distance"... my reason for this being that, if you keep hounding him, he will push farther away... if you get mad at him, that will also make it worse...
    However, I do believe that if you leave him a cheery message every now and then he may respond or come back around... don't leave him messages that sound desperate or pathetic on your part... simply call and tell him something wonderful that has happened in your life and tell him you miss him... leave it at that... do not continue to tell him to call you, because you already know that he most likely will not call you... don't put the pressure on him to call you... he will come back around when he is ready. He may not want you to pull at him... just let him do his thing... long as you are aware that he is physically safe and doing well... use that knowledge to give you a piece of mind... there does come a point, where you just simply need to step back...
    Being as this is your son, it will most certainly be one of the hardest thing you ever have to do... but none the less... you can't make him come back to you... so you may just need to accept it, keep a smile on your face, and love him from a distance... he is still yours... he always will be... it sounds as though he is just simply spreading his wings...
    Be patient.
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    #30

    Jan 11, 2009, 09:54 PM

    That is sad too. But nothing will compare to that of Lettie, ever.
    You know I had said I was a foster mother and one child I had from was your area there, Wondergirl. This goes back about 15 years ago though.
    It must have been a pretty big case because when she lived with me, I tried to get info because DCFS is always so discreet about the parents. Anyway I got a lot of info from the school. Thank GOD they were the ones who broke the case. All three children were kept like dogs. Sent to school smelling like feces and not wanting to go home. It was horrible. I think one of the girls told her teacher her father was raping her, she was in kindergarten, and so they called the police. When they got to the home, everything the children told them was true. Locked in room one matress no blankets, pillows, trash almost up to the knees. Feces everywhere.
    It was so sad. The father beat them and the mom's boyfriend raped them. At court the mother chose her boyfriend over the kids (judge said if she ever wanted them back she would not be able to take her perv boyfriend back when he was out of jail). But she told court she picks her boyfriend. Thank god. She's just as much at fault for raising them in that environment and allowing these abusers in her kids life. She never saw her kids again, well I don't know now that they are adults if she has. I hope not.
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    #31

    Jan 12, 2009, 06:29 AM

    I definitely had wondered that, 'I am hidden'.

    Thank you wondergirl Lettie's case is probably even worse than this other child's case that I am looking for. Only because how long it had gone on ~ raw skin and open wound infections not to mention everything else these monsters did to this blessed little angel. I'm glad you understand my plight (most people think it is morbid to discuss these situations). But they don't understand that it is not because I think it is entertaining to talk about these horrendous cases but that it keeps the child's spirit alive. I want everyone of us to know Lettie and the others little angels. We all need to keep our eyes open and not be afraid to do something when we suspect abuse .
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    #32

    Jan 12, 2009, 06:41 AM
    Str8Stack,
    I like the way you worded that to "love him from a distance"...
    You suggested that if you leave him a cheery message every now and then ~ I tried it for about 6 months and now his voicemail box stays full.
    However, Str8t I did sound desperate & pathetic
    Your right that this has been a very hard thing to do.
    He is my son, true and no one can take that away. I have never loved from a distance, as you say. The needy part of me to feel loved comes in and he must know that, in my pathetic tone. OK well I am working on this Str8t and I sure do appreciate your advice.
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    #33

    Jan 12, 2009, 07:10 AM
    Your very welcome... I'm glad I could be of help. I was worried that it would come across as being to "cold hearted" sounding... but, in a lot of ways, through my own life experiences, a lot of college classes and being raised in a home where my mother had foster children, and the counciling that my mother had gotten me when I was younger... has all taught me the right way in life to handle situations. You have to remember that in life, the right thing to do, may not always be what makes you happy... you have to weigh the pro's and con's of a situation and make the best judgement call... and like I said, the "best thing" to do or the "right thing" to do, may not always benefit you or make you happy... just like the old saying about parents telling their children "this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you"... I don't know if you have heard that saying or not... but it's the basic thouht of that handling the situation appropriately, isn't always easy for the parent either... I always tell people to use there heart when making a decision, but always get a second opinion from your brain... sometimes you have to reverse that roe... use your brain to figure out the solution and get a second opinion from your heart.
    I hope everything works out well for you... best of luck to you... and be patient... he is still yours... even if it is from a distance at this point..
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    Jan 12, 2009, 10:10 PM
    Thank you very much

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