I don't know where to start. I don't know where to turn. The law is not out to help you in these situations. I was abused physically & mentally for 25 years, my husband. My son, now an adult, has mentally abused me and is violent sometimes. He threatens me if I call someone, he threatens others if they show up. He threathens himself. He scares the hell out of me those times he is upset. He has been diagnosed with bi-polar, anxiety, depression, social phobia, and PTSD. He is a very smart person and can do just about anything but refuses to help himself; always trying to help everybody else and getting nothing in return. I am his only help and he doesn't want it. I'm scared to stand up for him when he is out of line and in that 'mood'.

I have slept with my pistol and locked my bedroom door. That is sad that you have to do that with your own son. I lock my pistol up in my safe when he's fine. He doesn't know I have one. I also have to lock my medications up or he will take them. I have had to start locking my truck up in my own garage because things have come up missing... my GPS, my phone charger, and no telling what else. My collection of Jack Daniel's is now gone. I found them under his bed but haven't confronted him on it. He gets upset and tells me that I blame him for everything if I can't find something. Well, he is the only person living in my house. And everything is an accident if it gets broke or messed up. Sorry's are not working anymore when you continue to do the same things over and over again.

I have my house up for sale and need him out of it. I'm even thinking about moving myself so he will have to move. He doesn't have a job and on disability. He doesn't pay rent or groceries. Material things are not anything to him so he will break anything or pawn it if he needs money. Sad situation and I'm stuck in a abusive situation again. Oh, my husband (his father) died 14 years ago and I never got remarried, why? I was afraid of men.

I could go on and on but just don't know what to do anymore. I need out and don't have the strength to fight; really afraid too.

I find it difficult to believe that when called because you son was violent and physically abusing you the police would do nothing. You call them every time he threatens you. Get on of these small digital voice recorders to keep in your pocket and turn on every time he goes off on one of these tirades... I will give you proof of what happens when the police aren't there. Maybe even record a video of thise on your cell phone to show whats happening as evidence.

YOUr option is to have him evicted... tha means serving him written notice... and waiting the required time, (which varies depending on where you live)... but the average for most of the country is 30 days. THen you can go to court for the sherrifs to remove him fromt hje residence... and you get a restaining order against him. If he violates it you have him arrested and let the courts deal with him. Mental issues or not... he doesn't have a free pass to abuse or threaten others.

Evict him, if he threatens, you call the police, if he assults you, have him arrested.
Get a protective order,

I have an idea what happens, you feel sorry and let him keep coming back, or will not press charges, when police come. ** Maybe I am wrong, but too many years as a officer, and that is always how it happens.

This is going to sound harsh, it's not meant to be, okay.

You say you were abused by your husband, physically and mentally, for 25 years. This is where your son learned the behavior. It was okay for your husband to do it to you, so, in your son's mind it is okay for him to do it to you. This is a prime example of why it's not always good to stay in a marriage "for the kids."

Now, with that said... When he becomes abusive, you call the cops. I don't care if you have to call them 10 times a day. You call the cops. Also, I don't know where you live, but if in the US, you can call your local Department of Human Services and get some information and assistance regarding elder abuse. You don't have to be elderly, this just means that someone younger than you, usually a family member, is abusing you.

Contact a local women's shelter in your area for legal advice on how to get him out of your home in a manner that will keep you safe.

You both have suffered long enough and need help. Get it for yourself first with a visit to your doctor, and get a referral for a counselor. Another path is a referral from an abused woman's shelter for a counseling service. Until you help yourself, you can't help your son. Few do this alone without a lot of help and support.

You are not alone with this issue, but you must reach out to find the help you need.

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

When you call a cop, you have to follow through.

I agree with Tal.

You need support and good, solid advice, on how to help yourself first. Please speak to a lawyer, and get into counseling before you do anything drastic- i.e. the gun.

Find out what you need to do, in order to have him out of the house. It is easy to say 'kick him out' or 'evict him' but each option carries with it, time, and during the time you get from him being served with an eviction, and him actually being removed from the home, is as dangerous to you, as it is now. If anything will bring on anger and violence, that is the time it will happen.

Because he has been diagnosed, as you said, consult with his Doctor or treatment team, and find out if they can refer you to the proper agency in order to offer help. Let the Doctor know exactly what you have said here, and that the immediate part of removing him from your home, could become out of control.

Speak to the police. Make an appointment and go in. Explain to them what is going on, and get their advice. Learn what you can expect from them should you (likely) call when he is out of control.

I am confused as to whether your house is up for sale or not.

If you have a friend, or relative who can maybe move in with you during the eviction notice time (if you go that route), do so. Don't be afraid to speak to people about needing help.

I presume that he has not taken his medication or been to a Doctor for an assessment in quite some time. Consider this a part of the danger, particularly because it sounds like he's drinking heavily.

Please keep us posted in what you have decided to do, and how you plan to go about it.