3 yr old boy masturbating

nikki328 · Jan 28, 2005, 11:06 PM

Hi,
I was wondering if any parents here have ever had to confront the issue of their young children masturbating. And if so, how did you handle it? Did you take steps to try to get them to masturbate less, or at least not in public and did it work? And are their things you can do to 'help' your child not discover masturbation. That's been on my mind lately. For the last few months, me and my wife have heard some strange noises coming from our son's bedroom at nighttime, it sounded like some rocking and stuff, but we ignored it. Last week, my wife walked into his room while that sound was being made, and she saw our son lying on top of a rubber ball and rocking his waste over it, and he was quite into it. So now we knew what that sound was. She didn't say anything to him about it, but in the morning when he wasn't looking we hid the ball from him and took it away. The next evening, he was looking for it and asked if we had seen it. But we ignored the question, and still have the ball. IT has been much more peaceful at night, no more rocking sound from his bed in his bedroom, but each night he has been crying a bit for his ball. Will he get over that soon, or should we place the ball back in his room where he will find it again? I don't know if this is something to be concerned about since he has never masturbated in public, basically we just are tired of having to hear that rocking around at night. But it got me wondering how he discovered to do this, and how he discovered that placing a ball right there would feel good, I mean who just goes ahead and lies down on top of an 8 inch rubber ball and places it under their stomach? It makes me very curious as to how he has discovered this, and how his activity may change as he gets older. And he's been doing this for a few months now each night, and he's only three years old? Do other children do the same kinds of things?

lil miss vixen · Dec 13, 2005, 06:37 PM

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Does he have a regular baby sitter? if so is it a guy or girl? if guy could your son have seen the baby sitter do the samee thing? or had your son do it with him?

are you kidding?
babysitters wouldn't just drop there pants, and allow a three year old to see this! espically at a clients home? if your thinking about this. you need help.
thats wrong and if your babysitter did that. thats NOT NORMAL.
and making a child do that. is called rape. which is an absoutley horrible thought to put into a parents mind.
for shame

serialwife · Dec 14, 2005, 05:31 PM

There are certain types of people who seek out jobs in child care, those who love children and those who see children as objects to use. I am sure there is some gray area in there. It is very important for parents to responsibly pick childcare givers! I know a person that had no idea the guy she hired to babysit her kid was convicted of facilitating aggrevated child abuse in another state. He was sexually abusing this persons child. That is an extreme example. Some less than responsible bsbysitters feel it is okay to invite boyfriends and girlfriends over. When they get busy... maybe they are not paying attention to who is standing at the door wanting juice.

christinewest-stephen · Dec 27, 2005, 07:29 PM

you should just discurage him from using objects and teach him it is somthing thay sould only do alone my sister had the same problem with my nice and i babysat children who did the same so it is normal

nwsflash · Dec 31, 2005, 11:22 AM

I would have to say that I agree 100% with most of the things that have been posted on this freed, but saying that there are a few that worry me...

What your son is doing is a normal, most guys from birth till they die do it, weather its the odd scratch or holding themself for self comfirt !! I think that you need to get to the bottom of where the object come's from and where he has learnt to do this from, but other than that it is normal.

When you feel or can tell that he is about too start doing the thing that bothers you, try and get him doing things like colouring, painting, video games or reading to watching the telly to try and take if mind away from this kind of things... Kids learn very quick and at his age if you can get his mind buzzing with things im sure you will find it drops down, you may also find that it also goes away with age as he grows more and develops his mind to new skills.

spyyder · Dec 31, 2005, 02:28 PM

Ok it's NOT possible for a 3 year old to be thinking of (or really feeling) sexual things... since first the thoughts that cause the pleasure of doing so dont exist yet.... and if he is stimulating his genitals...... well... it's not a sexual thing.. trust me....... like when a men spends most of his time in the shower putting hot water on his *cough* *cough*.......... its nothing sexual.

Just get rid of the ball, it'll do got for you and him (in the long run).

the_workmans · Feb 2, 2006, 05:03 PM

My four year old son does rub himself on objects and I have asked him many times why he does it and he says it feels good. I have cared for him his whole life and only immediate family has babysat. So this is not something he has seen anyone do or anything that was done to him. I thought he was way too young to have any feelings like this and it scares me for his future. I tell him not to do it because it could hurt him, is this bad. How should we deal with this behavior because my husband and I need to be on the same page about how to deal with this issue.

letmetellu · Feb 6, 2006, 07:33 PM

Mike154K I don't agree at all with your solution to the masturbation problem. Gloves with no fingers...I don't think so. And if that does not work what do they do tie his arms to the bed posts.

bizygurl · Feb 7, 2006, 06:04 AM

Children don't even know what masturbation is. All they know is that what they are doing is making them "feel good" They have no concept as to what sex is, most of the time at three years old they don't even understand there own body parts.
Although it may seem alarming and maybe a little disturbing to some people its completley normal. I had this same issues come up in the child care center i use to work at. THe child was the same age and everytime at nap time she would start to rub on herself. We brought it too her mothers attention (we thought she would want to know) she said that she brought it up to her pediatrician after she witnessed it at home and the pediatrician said that its normal and its away children discover there bodies. And its nothing sexual in their minds because they dont have that concept. It really isn't a big deal. As adults we make it a big deal because we associate masturbation to sex but as I said children don't and its completely innocent.

ZeDuDe · May 12, 2007, 12:24 AM

Hey, i also agree with most of the posts here, it is 100% normal.
Although I have a question if u dont mind, can a 3 year old boy ejaculate semen? Or does he stop before ejaculation... or does he experience the orgasm but no semen comes out because premature bodies cant produce it? It's just a scientific question I've been seeking an answer to... I just want to know if pre-mature bodies can produce semen in ejaculation.
Please if anyone knows... I'd really appreciate an answer

Thankyou :-)

MicheleEB · May 14, 2007, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by lil miss vixen

are you kidding?
babysitters wouldn't just drop there pants, and allow a three year old to see this! espically at a clients home? if your thinking about this. you need help.
thats wrong and if your babysitter did that. thats NOT NORMAL.
and making a child do that. is called rape. which is an absoutley horrible thought to put into a parents mind.
for shame

I know that seems scary but it does happen and just because someone realizes that it happens doesnt mean they need help. However I think this person brings up a valid point. Even if it is normal for toddlers to masturbate, it never hurts to look at the entire situation.



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