ok so im so like confused, i have a 13 mo son, well the real father is my ex finace, i lied to him at 1st an told him i had a girl (the guy i eventually married calims my son as his) and he had put it in my head that he could come in and just take my baby, he made me scared to tell my ex the truth so i lied about the gender adn the DOB, an me and my hubby have broken up and lately i have been feeling really bad about it all and i want to call and tell him but theni dont, i mean he didnt really beleive me when i said i had a kid when my son was like 4 months old even thou he heard my kid crying and stuff. so my question is should i tell him, my friends say no. but i feel really bad

GV70

lol-I REALLY do not understand who is your ex-fiance and who is your ex-husband or they are a same man...Also who is actually the real father and who is on the birth certificate...

bluerose

If, and only if, he is the father you should tell him. The man has a right to know that he has a son. Look to the future, do you want your son to go the rest of his life not knowing his dad. You are thinking of the guy just now but what about your son? He’s going to want to know who his dad is. Come clean. Sincerely apologise, tell him how your ex threatened you. Make it clear that you want for him to know the child and for the child to know him.

Jesushelper76

I think you need counseling. You need more then our help through this strange and confusing situation.

MicheleEB

I agree, if the father and the ex husband are not one in the same, you need to tell the father the truth. And counseling never did anyone harm, unless you go just long enough to bring everything up, then quit.