How can I stop hating women?

artlady · Mar 4, 2009, 06:51 PM

I suggest you start meeting the right women who can change your mind. How do you feel about your Mom and Grandma,aunts,sisters?

It is never wise to paint with such a big brush.That is like saying all guys are jerks,its just not true.

Women have not and never will be inferior to men.We have many assets that are unique to our sex.

I suspect that growing up will have a big impact on your narrow mindedness and chauvinism.

cmhagedorn · Mar 4, 2009, 07:00 PM

Artlady answered wisely, mine is somewhat the same. I suggest that you stop allowing such messages to envelop your mind. You are young and there is nothing easy about youth...NOTHING...at every corner there are unchartered obstacles to overcome and difficult people girls and boys to deal with. Perhaps you should go to your Pastor/Priest or other religious leader for the biblical solutions to your problem.

asking · Mar 4, 2009, 07:09 PM

Wow! I think it's amazing that you recognize that this is wrong and are willing to talk about it.

Women are depicted in very negative terms and a lot of them buy into the idea that they are unintelligent or that their only role is to entertain men and hopefully be supported.. The disloyalty is really just a guy's perspective, that's all. Most women feel that at least one man they've dated has been disloyal.

Anyway, Lots of women are very intelligent, have good jobs, are independent, etc.

On average, women are just as intelligent as men, so get the idea out of your head that they are stupid. The teenage girls at your high school may play a little dumb (while the boys try to pretend they are smarter than they are ), but there's nothing to it. Likewise, women are not less loyal. In fact, I would probably say that on average women are more loyal to their families than men. But the important thing to remember is that these are individual traits. It doesn't matter what the average is. What matters is the character of the person you are with.

Jake2008 · Mar 5, 2009, 01:34 AM

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Originally Posted by T-Bag

I'm in high school now and the actions of girls and women in general have started to disgust me. Their inferiority, disloyalty, differences from boys, stupidity, and their power over men sickens me. I don't want to be a sexist and I don't want to turn out being gay (not that there is anything wrong with that) when I grow up. I don't know where these ideas came from but its just all the things I saw around me and the classical texts I read depicting woman as disloyal and untrustworthy influenced my thoughts. What can I do to stop feeling this way?

I really don't want to offend any women out there, so I'm really sorry if reading this bothered you. Please don't judge me harshly.

I can sort of see where you are coming from. When I was in high school, and college for that matter, I had very few female friends. I had male friends, and found I had much more in common with them. They weren't dieting all the time, plotting to get some guy, plucking their eyebrows and spending their money on makeup. They were FUN and rode bikes, watched baseball, went ice-fishing and hung out. My three best friends were male.

That being said, people change, and grow up. We all grow up. But what does that mean. With the women I described, they find their way, and feel comfortable in their own skin. They became confident, trustworthy, hard working. Many have married and had successful marriages and great kids. Others found different paths. But, all of them changed.

Boys and girls develop differently as well. The behaviour you see now in these girls will not be the same in a few years. Growing up means developing what you need to survive in this world, with all the necessary tools to do so, like work ethic, loyalty, an education, etc. Once a life becomes independent, so too does the individual.

Give them time, you will find the traits that you think define them now, to be completely different before you know it.

asking · Mar 5, 2009, 07:09 AM

What are the specific things in high school girls that disgust you?

What makes you think they are inferior to men generally and you specifically?

JoeCanada76 · Mar 5, 2009, 07:24 AM

How did your father treat your mother? Or how was your mothers relationship if any? Just curious if home life has any influence on the way you veiw women?

T-Bag · Apr 13, 2009, 08:41 PM

My father treated my mother well...most of the time. I had a strange relationship with my mother. She loved my older brother more than me and thought of him as the ideal human being...although he was far from it. She never hated me, she treated me fine. But I never liked her. Sure she wasn't horrible, she was pretty great actually fulfilling the duties a mother should fulfill and even more. But I just never liked her for some reason. I always looked up to my dad.

T-Bag · Apr 13, 2009, 09:22 PM

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What are the specific things in high school girls that disgust you?

What makes you think they are inferior to men generally and you specifically?

They're all...you know stupid and stuff. Immature. They think everything is super cute and stuff...hard to explain! And I see them as inferior to men because of the way they act. Despite the several exceptions, they always need a big strong guy to watch out for them. Of course they give birth and but they have ALLOWED society to degrade them..and for that they are less deserving of respect. No offense girls...

Homegirl 50 · Apr 13, 2009, 10:20 PM

I think the person you don't like is yourself. Maybe you think girls have expectations you don't feel you can live up to, so you transfer your hate to them. You blame them for your feeling bad about yourself.
It may do you some good to talk to a professional. You are too young to have such feeling towards women and yourself.
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