I am an Amerian girl in love with an Iranian Persian guy.

Its all about parents who want their son or daughter to have best life since not so many persians have got married with other than persians; They want the best life for their kids which means: good education in fact good prestigous, warm and happy family, loyal, understanding the culture and .... but if you really want your boyfriends family to like you, try to be close to mom and dad say good stuff about your boyfriends and tell them what you want to do in future about jobs education and making a good family ... dress formal when invited and do not smoke infront of them. if you show respect u get more respect, wish u the best.

.....and what of love?

......what is the worth of love?

I'm not Persian but I'm Iranian and I do agree with everyone else here, you need to show interest in the culture. Read some news, get familiar with what's going on in Iran now, this would be a great subject of discussion with his parents, specially his father. Show interest in the Persian cuisine, tell him that you want to try Persian food made by his mother Talk about the successful Iranians in the States, that's one of the favorite topics of the Iranians in the US. Show interest in the Persian literature, this is one of the richest in the world, especially Persian poetry. Show interest in education. Iranians value education. Looks are important for Iranians. Go to gym, take a new haircut, give importance to what you wear when you meet his parents. Unlike the general opinion, most Iranians are not religious, they like their Persian roots more than the religion. Learn about the history, the Persian empire, Cyrus the great, the kings...Iranians are really proud of having that glorious past. Iran is a great country, with great people. If you love him and he loves you back, neither his parents nor anything else can stand between you. Good luck!

I showed plenty of genuine interest in the culture. The culture of any civilization is worthy of respect and interest and understanding. I enjoyed the Persian food and learned some phrases, listened to music, read books, watched movies and attended cultural events. We did all kinds of things together for 9 years. I helped him in many ways with legal concerns and with his business.

I loved him truly in every sense.

However he shook my hand as if I was a platonic friend in the presence of his mother.

I might add I am a polite person. I am a registered nurse with an art degree. I am not overweight and dress attractively.

I think the problem was: I have an anglo saxon background.

When his family imigrated to Canada the relationship came to an abrupt halt.

They say Love Conquers all.........................also Love is Blind!

I am a 25 year old American with a 31 year old Persian Jewish boyfriend. We have become incredibly serious over the last year and talk about getting married and having children all the time. We live in Los Angeles where his family lives however mine is back in Montana.
My parents are not accepting of our relationship whatsoever. When we visited my family, he and I got into a fight and it gave my parents an excuse to try to push me away from him.
His family, loves me. They are so supportive of our relationship, invite me to family dinners and treat me like their own daughter. At first, they were not supportive either. Mostly because they were concerned about what "other people would think" when they saw their handsome successful Persian Jewish son with a white girl. He confronted them and told them to accept me, that he wouldnt have it any other way and things have completely changed.
I suggest you try to learn about his lineage. Learn about his culture and take interest in their traditions. I made my boyfriends favorite persian meal for his birthday from his mothers recipe. Its small things that people notice and if you're truly meant to be together, you'll find a way.

I guess I told you my story because your parents opinions matter. However, we are living in different times and they can only see as much of your relationship as you allow. With my family they hold that ONE fight 9 months ago over his head as a grudge that they cant let go of, but it seems there are fears that "Persian culture" is too different from the way I was raised.
The thing is, your parents raised you to make good decisions and be a good person, and probably to stand up for others. So stand up for your boyfriend and yourself and his family and culture. Hopefully they will come around.
Hopefully I take my own advice and my family will eventually come around too.
Best to you