How do you show your love & compassion?

Looks like the other thread is officially closed b/c I have no more room on my p/c.

I went back over something and noticed(which I hadn't seen before)

I saw Orange's last post for that thread. I think it's on p.15 or 16 in the "confused about religion" thread.

I am praying for her to be ok. I don't think she would joke about something like that.

Now my question is........How do you feel about Love & Compassion?

orange

Thanks Dr. Jizzle. I appreciate the thoughts and prayers very much.

Don't feel too strangely. If you've read my thread in bereavement, you'll note that I haven't cried about my brother-in-law and sister-in-law yet. I also never cried at either of my biological parents' funerals, or my foster sister's funeral, even though she was a best friend to me for years. I've never been much of a crier. That doesn't mean I don't mourn though. My major form of mourning is insomnia... I've had it really bad this past week. I also lose my appetite and get really busy helping with all kinds of practical tasks. People tell me I'm "cool in a crisis" when everyone else is basically falling apart.

Regarding love and compassion, I think once again I am more of a doer. I'm not the kind of person to say "I love you" or "I care" that much (in fact pretty much never haha), but I will "do" a lot. Especially for people I love, but also for strangers. My husband gets upset because he thinks I do potentially dangerous things. For example, last winter I saw a Cree man standing on a street corner, and obviously he was drunk or stoned or both. He was swaying and almost falling into the busy street. It was close to 40 degrees below zero, and he wasn't dressed well. Anyways to make a long story short, I stopped my car and gave him a ride to the Salvation Army. I had to help him into the car, and he was also bleeding a bit... so I helped him wipe his face. I think he'd been in a fight. I didn't call the police because people "like him" often get treated badly by the police here. Another time I was at the bus station and an obviously mentally challenged man was walking around asking people to help him tie his shoes. They were all running away from him, but I tied his shoes for him and gave him a tissue because he had snot running down his face. I do things like that quite often and like I said it upsets my husband. I just figure though that if I was in those people's positions, I would want someone to care too.

31pumpkin

Well,

A lousy worded question anyway.! I must've been describing me feelings I tell ya!

The ol' RHETORICAL question!

And u fell for it! Just kidding. It's all been a "Forrest Gump" day, if ya know what I mean!

Carry on....

orange

I totally understand what you're talking about, Fr Chuck. When I used to work for the HIV/AIDS organization in my city, I would get to know a client, see them one day and then they'd be dead the next. Not necessarily from AIDS, but many of them were transients, and they'd be beaten or stabbed to death on the street, or die in jail, or of an overdose, etc. I never really got used to all the death, although staff had mandatory grief counseling every 6 months. Eventually I had to quit my job because I couldn't take it.

My husband is a doctor and currently works in Emergency, so he sees a lot of people die. We've had the conversation about how he stands it several times. He obviously isn't happy when a patient dies, but he says he's gotten at least somewhat used to it. At least moreso than when he was a resident.