My two female cats lived together for nearly 17 years. It's been one month now since Pietra suddenly died, and Pumpkin (who has been diagnosed with cancer last august) has not been the same kitty since. She's constantly meowing (the low gutteral cry, the baby screaming cry, the please help me cry) agitated and angry. I've taken her to the vet, who tells me this could be very normal, and should pass. But it hasn't. I'm home in the evenings with Pumpkin after work, but she wants nothing to do with me. Occassionally, at bedtime, she'll come to one of her many cardboard boxes and allow me to pet her, but she's still crying and unhappy. The vet says bringing another kitty into the home would be a mistake at her age. And I don't know how long she'll last with the cancer growing inside her. I really hate to see her so unhappy, and can't be sure if she's just vocalizing or if she's experiencing more. Vet says no pain. I can't be sure. She still eats, although 1/2 as much as normal, drinks a lot of water, and goes to the litter box with no issues. What should I do?

tickle

I know its hard to do nothing at all and I think in this case that is the best option and let her work it through herself. You are probably right, she is grieving. Animals alone after being with a life long partner do that. She misses her friend who was always there and she doesnt understand why she is alone now and I guess a human doesnt really take the place in this case. All you can do is offer as much support and affection as she will possibly accept.

teghancat

I don't agree with the vet. I think adopting another cat might distract her and encourage her to come out of her grieving process. A kitten would be best because she might feel maternal
and loving towards it. She is just lonely