The issue has been raised about extending a public thread privately by using PMs or going off site and/or offline to continue the correspondence.

I think eveyone knows I am very much against a responder offering such contact. I am not against the contact itself, but believe it should be the asker's choice and not the responder's offer.

One of the purposes of keeping discussions public on a site like this is to get a variety of responses or input on a question. Another purpose is to have peer review to make sure answers are accurate. Taking the discussion private removes both of those advantages.

However, I do recognize that there are occassions where it does make sense to take a discussion private. Generally this occurs when the information being shared is private and posting it publicly might cause problems or embarassment to the asker.

My feeling here is that we open this for discussion which may result in a clarification of the guidelines. But if anyone sees an offer for private extension of a thread that the Report Inappropriate Post link be used and let the mods decide whether the post oversteps the guidelines or not.

StaticFX

I agree Scott. This post should be made into an announcement of some kind so it will be seen everywhere.

JudyKayTee

The background for me is: I was certainly corrected for taking "it" off the board some 11,000 posts ago when someone didn't want to post personal info and I suggested that they PM it to me, was told it's against the rules. Since that time I have respected that call on the part of the moderators and have repeated the info very frequently on the legal boards, believing it's policy. (There is also another thread on this within the past two or three months and I believe two people were told NOT to take it off the board.)

My experience on the legal boards with PM's several times has been that a question was psoted. Answers were given. Suddenly an answer comes out of left field, makes no sense. That ANSWER is questioned and it comes out that the OP has been in contact off the board and provided additional or other information which has totally changed the question as well as the answers. Confusing and a waste of time.

I'm very interested in what others have experienced.

Wondergirl

This all came about when an AMHD member suggested that a financially desperate OP contact him regarding his resume and would direct the OP to a person who would help him perfect it without charge. Having done resumes for years, I know there are few more personal documents than a resume -- one's location, phone number, work sites, dates of service, etc. I'm suggesting that was the point of the member's PM request, to preserve the privacy of the OP. In any event, the OP was new to the site and didn't have PM capabilities, so it is a moot point.

(Please add that last fact to the site rules and regs, please.)

KeepItSimpleStupid

I've done it recently:

Ask for an address because without an address I can't plug in the numbers to tvfool and tell what antenna one needs or if the selected one will work. I've done this twice. Once long ago. The last time got declined which is OK too. I still posted the results even though some information was from a PM.

The other recent time was the possible posting of a propreitary picture of a company facility. A picture wasn't used in the end and neither was PM or email. I was the only person replying to the thread anyway.

So, in both cases, it was to protect someone's privacy and to continue the non-private portions on the forum.

Recently, I've seen a post which said "I" may have the manual. "I'll" email a few scanned pages to you for you to decide.

Fr_Chuck

Part of the issues are who is who.
A JR member are they really who they say they are, will they be asking for money to help with the resume or will they want to "sell" a product to the other person.

If a person is tellig someone what they want to hear, they will go off board and often not hear the real truth on the board

Altenweg

Okay, question. I have friends on the board, friends that I talk to on the phone and email off this site. Is it okay for me to tell them to PM me with a thread link, or to tell me they're available to talk?

Maybe a silly question, but I just want to be sure it's okay.

Synnen

I actually just took a thread to PMs myself, but for different reasons than what was posted here....kinda.

Another (long-time) member and I both responded to a thread, and replied to different aspects of the same question. Because I did not want to dominate someone else's thread, I asked for a specific clarification of this other member through PMs--mostly because I felt it was turning into a discussion rather than actually answering the OP (on my part, not the othermember)

If it turns out that my private question actually IS pertinent to the thread, I'll repost it, and ask the other member to post their answer to me. However---I don't think this is what you mean.

I've always told people to take their private questions to the thread rather than PMing me--unless it was an issue of supreme privacy. At that point, what I try to do is involve another member that can be trusted in the PMs--the other member doesn't have to respond at all, but it covers my butt JUST IN CASE. So, for example, I'll tell Bubba_Johnson that I understand the need for privacy, but need to involve AdministratorX in our PMs. AdministratorX is not there to help answer, but to make sure that I do not take advantage of the Bubba_Johnson and the information he is giving me. I ask Bubba_johnson if that's okay with him, and then ask him to cc the other person when replying to me as well.

I think i've only had to do this ONCE, though. Most of the time the stuff I get is just stuff that people are too embarrassed to ask in public, rather than stuff that is actually sensitive in a security way.

Fr_Chuck

And it is a tough call, you PM someone with a question about what they post,

not post on the board for them to PM you. And perhaps as a expert to clear something up.

But this started this last time with someone wanting them to PM about a resume they were going to offer to write for them.

And I fear on the legal boards, or adoption boards, that people will be using PM to tell them that they can do the legal work for them, or that they can search for thier love one.

That is the issue with the rule, if there is not a good rule to restrict it, for any one good person using it there can be others using it for bad

ScottGem

To Synnen
That ws a valid use of PMs and I've done similar. The point here is YOU chose to go offline, not because someone asked you to.

As chuck pointed out, it does matter who. If a long time member who we can trust to be accurate and not take advantage its better than a newbie we don't know.

To alt,
Again this is a situation where you are contacting someone you have a relationship with. Not offering to help someone privately. Nothing wrong in that.