Continued from here: The NC Calendar II

hjpan

No... just her life is out of control =]

Got to manipulate the thinking process.

NorthernNiceGuy

Hey Guys...

Its been a real long time since I have been here... I see you've guys have made it to thread 3... Nice to see. I was without internet for about a month and just never really got back on the wagon.

Well its been just over 4 months now for me. Things for me, as I am sure for a lot of you guys that started this when I did have changed radically... I will admit, I am not over it yet, and to this day there are times when I feel pretty down. But I am back to my old self again. I have gone over a day without thinking about her and can clearly see that life does go on and that I definitely will be ok.

I even had a glorious rebound haha. Don't worry I didn't hurt anybody.... she had just broken up with her b/f so when we ended it, it was completely mutual. Had a lot of fun though and for those two weeks I don't think I thought about my ex more than a couple times. Showed me something though... that I am going to meet someone else, and when I do its going to be so exciting and fun that I am not going to give my ex a second thought.

So everybody, let me know how you're all doing. I'm interested to hear.

gg23

hey nng...good to hear that you are doing ok bro.... my Bu happened in April.. it's going on 5 months on the 20 th of this month. i have to say i have been ok. everyday i noticed how slowly i have made my way out of the hole that i was in. you are right it does feel better to get myself back. although it's not 100 percent yet, but i can definitely tell that i have made a lot of progress. i have also been dating this new girl for about 3 months now. we go through a lot of ups and down, but i m sticking to my gun. except i texted my ex to ask for my bracelet that was a gift from my mom. she didn't reply,but at this point i could careless. i told her that if she doesn't want to talk to me thats fine, but i need my bracelet as it's means a lot....so i hope that she sends it eventually...i think she stopped talking to me when i posted the pictures of me and the new girl on fbook. oh well...she is sweet and we are making progress slowly. she is very supportive. anyway bro our journey is almost complete....it does feel good to know that i stood up for myself and made myself better.....everyday when i miss her and feel down, i remind myself of the quote..." if you are walking in hell, keep walking...." so i know that i m gonna be stronger and a better partner and that i have grown.... anyway bro hope all is well with you...

hjpan

talaniman

In 5-6 years you should have one huge date book. Hard as it is stick to your own age. Less trouble that way.

NNG, GG, Good to hear your doing well, it does get better still.

barney1010

Well, NC day one would begin tomorrow. I'm just a bit confused about the whole thing. Like NC to them yeah, but what do you do when they contact you? Just completely ignore it?

NorthernNiceGuy

Exactly, she wanted it so give it to her. Talking to you makes her feel better, yet only makes you more miserable... You don't owe her anything. Take care of yourself bud, leave her be.

e22

My ex and I broke up yesterday after 1 1/2 yrs. We've broken up before but we always end up getting back together the next day. I'm so tired of him breaking up with me, I've been on an emotional roller coaster and I know I just need to cut him off if I'm ever going to move on. I can't "be friends" with an ex, I'm interested in this NC rule. I talked to him today, and he was really mean to me which is helpful I guess....makes me not want to get back together with him. I'm having a really hard time not calling him though. Does anyone have any advice about how not to pick up the phone and call or email him? I have a feeling I'm going to struggle with this...

NorthernNiceGuy

Well everyone struggles with it so don't feel bad about that... My first couple months of doing it were littered with screw ups.... But once you actually get serious it does wonders in making you feel better. Things you could do to help..... hmmm. Well may I suggest writing a list of all the things that you don't like about him and the relationship and leaving it beside your phone... Also (i did this), whenever you get that erg to call find yourself a family member or close friend that you go to first... Pour out your feelings to them and allow them to stop you and help you see what you are really doing...

Remember calling them or contacting them in anyway won't do you any good. Just read the posts by all of these people... Every time you screw up you regret it instantly, and feel worse. When you do contact them you are not going to get the reaction you want.... trust me. Just think of how you will feel after you call him and how nothing good was accomplished...

cowboyjai

My ex came by today while I wasn't home and dropped off some money that she owed me.

I was pretty surprised by it, I didn't think she was going to pay me back, and the fact that she did sort of broke my defenses a little bit. Like it was easier to deal by being pissed at her, and this was a good, decent act which gutted me more than thinking the money wasn't coming back.

I broke NC once at the start of this (we broke up a bit over a month ago now), and we hooked up, and then the next day she left again. Since then I haven't broken it. I still haven't, but she wants some documents she left on my computer

I'll probably leave them on a usb for her and leave it on my desk.

I wish she would stop contacting me. I've done all I can realistically do at the moment - new number, kept busy, new hobbies, more time with friends. I still miss her and have feelings, but I'm smart enough to deal with them. I'll just leave the documents here for her and hopefully that's the last I'll hear from her.