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You should have got a drum set, the best way to release anger within music is banging on dose drums

bigbird213

I have been playing for a few years now and I'll be the first to admit, its a great way to just put everything out of your mind and get totally involved in something. Its a good release....

Just make sure you don't get discouraged...its very frustrating to start out.

gg23

i bought a punching bag set.( heavy bag)..that seem to help. i also took 5 days off n went to NY city...funny thing. when i was there , i was so busy, and was at a parade with so many hotties that i really didn't think about her. now i m back...oh boy..memories like crazylast night i was so down...but then watched the lakers play so that helped

bigbird213

I went out and bought a dirt bike. always nice to pick up a new hobby for that extra time you suddenly have on your hands

chuff

Well I just found out what ended it. Another guy. I think I knew that but it's now been confirmed. I'm not shocked or surprisely even upset but maybe I'm still numb. It's funny because I usually know what to tell other people but now I'm just kind of living and thinking, you f-ing c word that I can't say.

bigbird213

Hey Chuff,

I'm sorry to hear that, it must be rough.

The best thing I can say now is that you absolutely know what you have to do now. Next time she tries to act friendly, talk as friends, whatever else she pulls you know that you can;t play along. It was all fine and dandy before, but now you know you can't do it.

I know you are forced to have some contact with her, but I don't think she deserves your nicety anymore. I know it was nice for you to keep light, friendly contact with her, but you must know that can't continue..

Keep cool, try to relax and realize that nothing has really changed. The situation between the two of you is no different then it has been.

jolienoire

Chuff sorry to hear that. What I mean is that sorry to hear that she is an idiot. I won't pitty you as you know from all the awesome advice that you give and I know that you deserve better and obviously she was not the best for you. Numb I can understand that, Its like someone just thrown a bucket of ice on you in the middle of winter. But you know what, it's her loss because you are great! Your chuffing awesome!

And everyone chuffing love's your advice! I like that name by the way I get to replace it with bad words.. You get the chuffing point?

Remember JN is only a post away. Chuff Up it will get better!

WIth alot of chuffing love
Jolie Noire

Lol.. are you smiling yet?

chuff

Yes you are correct. You know even just reading what you wrote I realize I made the mistake of even being friendly....by that I mean if she started the conversation I kept it going and now I have to just move it along. Even the other week when she was feeling down it was me being the nice guy that stopped and asked if she was okay and for all I know she had a fight with him and I let myself be the back up cheerleader. AHHHH, I can't believe I reverted to the nice guy again after getting all this through my head.

bigbird213

Let that be the last straw....for your own sake

chuff

Jolie you are so correct. She is an idiot. The funny thing is I know I deserve better and knew it even while going out with her, but I'm happy to have someone else confirm it. Also, I live in Florida so bucket of ice in the winter isn't that bad. Although it's incredibly hot today, so I'ld be happy to have one now.

But to answer your question, I am smiling and it did make me feel better so I really appreciate what you've said. By the way, it's now official, I'm single with no attachment so if you want a Chuffing good time................Nevermind.