I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

talaniman

Thats what I'm starting to see, a test! As you can recall, I am for being healthy enough to make decisions for yourself, based on facts and not just emotions. Some facts are just coming to light, and I suspect more will follow. I know, false hope is a no-no. So big guy, how do you honestly feel, in light of events that have occurred? I think you have handled things as a gentleman, not stupid, nor overboard (nice guy, yes).

talaniman

If we took a vote, everyone would agree......................this sucks! Just hang in there though. Read the links in my signature.

Romefalls19

Count me in on that vote Tal...Because we have ALL been where he has been and if you read Sneezy, Westy or my posts from when we first got on here, trust me you would see how alike every situation is. I'm almost positive we all had the topic of "she's not like everyone else, she is perfect" Looking back, and I'm sure they will agree...Our Ex's are FAR from perfect and we are all getting along just fine. We just needed time to heal, which I learned from this site.

Which also keeps me coming to this site, because I have been through it and any advice I can give that helps someone makes it worth while. Keep your head up champ, you will get through this.

nickshehe

I think Im alot happier now than I was with her..I mean besides the times we were together where it was perfect most of the time(..wasn't always or else we wouldve still been together)..but yeah I didnt really go out much because I felt like there was no point..and during weekdays I was pretty moody and I ignored my friends alot.

I feel really weak at times though, especially when im drunk..im having the time of my life and then I go home alone and im like "..wwhyyyyyyyyyyyy"..hah.
Oh well.
to new beginnings.

chuff

Actually I still think as I wrote yesterday. I still think it came off as desperate and me trying to buy my way in as opposed to just being me. Furthermore, I think I should never have gone up there when I found out she came down here to see me. If she wanted to see me bad enough, I should have let her Even last night, at home I was thinking to myself, that I've sort of lost my way for the last couple months in my overall life and quit following my advice. In fact I spent some time yesterday reading several older posts and my responses and I was just stunned that the same guy who wrote that is the same guy who is now here wondering what the hell happened? I have to say though, reading some of my own stuff really was very theraputic, because I was sitting there going "that's me, I'm that guy not this one who is confused." In the end, I'm not really confused, I'm just holding on to hope and not following the rules. Ironically enough, I went to get something to eat last night and the bartender started flirting with me and I started ragging on her and sure enough she bought me a drink and told me when she works again and that I needed to come back. I was thinking "I still got "it", it's in there it just needs to come out" But writing this all out here has been great for me because, for some reason I can't seem to see what's going on when it's happening, but as I write it down it becomes crystal clear.

But to answer your question how do I feel, I feel like the interest level on her end is way to low for this to recover, I feel like it's way to high on my end for me to think straight or logically as opposed to emotionally, and I continue to give more then I get. Furthermore, it's obvious she has put me on the backburner and if that's where I've been regulated I have to face the fact I deserve better then that position and I need to move on.

bigbird213

Hey Chuff,

Back about a year ago you helped me a bunch with what I was going through (it was a different name at the time). I just wanted to say that I'm glad you read some of your own advice, because it really helped me out at the time. I guess it also lets you see into why some people appear to "ignore good advice", when in reality its so much easier said from outside then done from the inside.

I hope everything works out for you man, I'm pullin for you....

chuff

Thank you, I seriously can not tell you how much that means.

ststoleson

im starting to realize what i need to do with my life, and im starting to figure out even thought it hurts like hell that if i did learn anything from her it was this, "The only people you need in your life are the ones that need you." Im still hoping that shell come around, but if she doesnt, i guess thats what im going to have to live by

losingit77

Day 6 of reinstated NC. Ex called me last night. Did not leave a message. What? Did he really think I'd crack after only 6 days??? Please, he has no idea who he's dealing with now. Its time he realizes what "break-up" means. Its a permanent loss. It doens't mean I sit around waiting for him to call, it doesn't mean I'm available whenever he needs me, it means I'm gone from his life for good.

He wants to give up 4 years together because he wants to be free and single? Then, fine. He'll have to deal with it. Ha!

classicrocker

losingit77, thats right preach on. how are you holding up? im only on day 2 of NC and the days arnt getting any easyer